Devastating news

[madamechocolat]

Have just received some terrible news - that the two year old daughter of close friends died two hours ago. Have been hugging my two close ever since and struggling to believe the news. She had a major operation a week ago but seemed to be recovering well. I feel so sad because she was such a gorgeous, spark of life...How must my dear friends be feeling ? Life is so terribly unfair sometimes

oh no. How sad

Oh how very sad and terrible.
What was the operation for?

Poor little mite, and poor you. Makes you realise how lucky we are. :(

Oh how awful.

Oh god. I am so sorry. It 's the worst thing I can imagine.

Oh God how awful. That poor family.

that's awful. I'm so sorry for them and you.

:(
Am so sorry for your poor friends.

this is just so sad....your poor friends.

XX

Thanks for all the messages - I am still in shock really. I've just put my two little ones to bed and the time (usually a bit stressy) has been strangely poignant tonight. My friends are about to return home from the hospital - just wish I could do something really....

I'm going to send a card tomorrow but has anyone got any nice poetry I could include?

My best friends lost their 2 yr old ds about 18 months ago. It has been a dreadful time for them and we have all struggled to come to terms with their loss. I am so sorry that you are in the same position and my sympathies go to you and your friends. I wrote a long letter to my friend, and tried to capture as much as I could of their little boy - really getting down as many memories as possible. If you do something like this, they may not even want to read such a letter now, but in future years it will be a lovely reminder of their child.
Sorry have to dash now, but thinking of you.

How very sad.

Found these:

Sleeping In Jesus' Arms

Look, Mommy, I got wings!
These are the most incredible things.
You can’t see me, but I can see you.
It’s kind of like playing peek-a-boo.

I know you are sad and I am, too,
But when I seen the ray of light, I had to go through
You know me, I love to explore
And I went through when they opened that door.

It’s really nice, and I don’t have to wear any shoes
And when we play games nobody will lose
I’ll always be safe, never come to any harm
And at bedtime I get rocked to sleep, in Jesus’ arms.

Daddy, I know you are trying to be strong for everyone’s sake,
Please understand this was a chance I had to take.
This place is so beautiful, I had to give it a whirl.
Everywhere I go they call me “Daddy’s Girl.”

For my short time with you, you gave me so much love.
There was nothing more I could have asked of.
My brothers and sisters are also in my heart.
I’ll always be with you and them, we will never part.

I’m tired now, so I think I’ll go to sleep
I’m sorry for you I took that leap.
But I love it here, it’s nice and warm
getting rocked to sleep in Jesus’ arms.

IN MEMORY OF SAMANTHA

© 1999 Melissa Garner (All rights reserved)

Or:

If I close my eyes hard enough, you are not gone
For I can hear your laughter

You are not goone as long as I can remember
How it feels to have your hand in mine

You will be with me always for I can still see
The smile as I kiss your cheek

If I close my eyes you are not gone
For I can still feel you here, in my heart

And I miss you

how awful. thinking of your friends.

cx

:(

My thoughts are with your friends at this aweful time.x

I am one of the few who knows the devestating feeling of losing a child. My precious 19 month old little girl died a year ago from meningitis.

As a friend the only thing you can do for them is to listen and be there when they needs you, there is nothing you can say that will make them feel any better.
The biggest thing you can do that they will be thankfull for is to keep the memory of their daughter alive, talk about her always, remember significant dates,her birthday, christmas, etc.

The thought of people forgetting my child is unbearable.

When your friends are ready there is lots of support groups out there they never need to feel alone.Compassionate friends and the child bereavement trust are the best ones.

Here is a poem for you.

Hugs From Heaven

When you feel a gentle breeze
caress you when you sigh,
It's a hug sent from Heaven
from a loved one way up high.

If a soft and tender raindrop
lands upon your nose,
It's just a little angel's kiss
as fragile as a rose.

When you hear a song
that fills you with a feeling of sweet love,
It's a hug sent down from Heaven
from someone special up above.

If you wake up in the morning
to a bluebird's chirping song,
It's music sent from Heaven
to cheer you all day long.

If tiny little snowflakes
land upon your face,
It's a whisper sent from Heaven
all trimmed with angel lace.

So let your heart be joyful
if you're lonely, my dear friend,
Hugs that are sent from Heaven
a broken heart will mend.

• Unknown Author -

I cannot begin to imagine how they must feel......

Amyjade, hope you are okay too.

Oh god, I am so so sorry xxxx

Beautiful poetry, made me cry, but it's so sweet.

Forever part of our hearts

Could we ever forget your sparkling eyes
or the way you brightened each day,
or the smile which is etched in our memories,
so you are never far away?
Could we ever forget those priceless moments?
The answer, of course, is never.
For you were part of our lives for a brief time,
but you'll be part of our hearts forever.

Remembering my beautiful daughter Freya rose and all the other precious children who left this world too soon.

this had made me cry so much. i am sooo sorry for your losses, those poems are lovely-even if they have made me blub. i cant begin to imagine how people feel when they lose a child, be strong for your friends and let them know you are there no matter what. amyjade, my thoughts are with you too. freya rose, such a beautiful name. xxx

Thank you to everyone for your contributions. Amyjade you know how it is to lose someone precious and I shall heed your advice.

Have made a big lasagna and Apple pie to take round later. It's all just so terribly sad and shocking...

I can't bear to tell my daughter yet - she has lost her grandad and her nanny in the last six months and I'm not ready to explain how little children sometimes die too .

This is awful. My friend is mates with a woman whose 2 yr old dd died last week also following op. I know the woman and met her children and it is so desperately sad to think I saw her playing only weeks before. She was such a lovely little girl and it is heartbreaking. I cannot begin to imagine what depths of despair the parents must be going through (their older daughter is still v young but it will undoubtedly affect her too)and I don't know what I will say when I see them. There are no sufficient words of comfort in these situations. Your poor friends

I found this one - hope it helps.

God’s Lent Child.

“I’ll lend you for a little while
A child of mine” God said –
For you to love the while he lives
and mourn for when he’s dead.
It may be six or seven years
or forty two or three
but will you, till I call him back,
take care of him for me?

He’ll bring his charms to gladden you
and, should his stay be brief,
you’ll have his nicest memories
as solace for his grief.
I cannot promise he will stay,
since all from earth return
but, there are lessons taught below,
I want this child to learn.

I’ve looked the whole world over,
in my search for teachers true,
and from the things that crowd life’s lane
I have chosen you.
Now will you give him all your love,
nor think the labour vain,
nor hate me when I come to take
this lent child back again?

I fancied that I heard them say,
“Dear Lord Thy Will Be Done”
for all the joys thy child will bring
the risk of grief will run.
We’ll shelter him with tenderness,
we’ll love him while we may,
and for the happiness we’ve known
forever grateful stay.
But, should thy Angels call for him
much sooner than we planned,
we’ll brave the grief that comes
and try to understand.

What beautiful poetry. So sorry for your friends sad loss.
AmyJade, I feel for you so much. Our son contracted meningitis when he was 3 weeks old. Thankfully he was one of the lucky ones, but whenever I read threads that you have responded to, I always count my blessings, (and usually have a bloody good cry)