I can't believe it.

[leander]

Today I found out that I had had a miscarriage.I was 12wks today and had started spotting on Monday,so I went to the ER and they told me it was quite common I had no pain or sickness and only a small ammount of blood and discharge.They booked me in for a scan today and they couldn't see propely on an ultrasound so they did an internal scan thats when they told me my baby had no heartbeat,we were devastated I had convinced myself I was fine.I have had a silent miscarriage and they gave me a tablet and i have to go back on Friday take 2 more tablets and spend the day in hospital.I am gutted to think my baby has been dead for 3 wks and i never knew.This was my 2nd pg and I had no problems at all first time round.People say this happens for a reason I have said it myself but you dont expect it ti happen to you,It's just not fair.Sorry for rambling.

Oh leander, I am so so sorry, I really am. Lots of sympathy and hugs from me, and I hope you and your partner get through the next few days OK. It does happen for a reason, but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with. Lots of love.

I'm so sorry this happened. It must be devastating. Thinking of you xxx

leander, i'm so sorry to hear this news. look after yourself. hugs bkxxx.

(((hugs))))

Leander ... I am so sorry ...
This happened to me just over a year ago and it is devastating ...
I really struggled with the thought that my baby had been dead for 3 weeks and I told the doctor ... if it is any consolation to you, he told me that it was unlikely that that was the case. He said that often if there is a problem with the foetus/pregnancy then the baby doesn't grow at the normal rate and probably only got to the 9 week size at 12 weeks before giving up ...
I hope that makes a bit of sense to you ... it made sense to me and made me feel a bit better about the whole thing.
Hugs {{{{{}}}}}
Ghosty xxx

really sorry to hear this Leander Make sure you get lots of rest and take care of yourself. Thinking of you xxx

Leander, I am so so sorry. No, it isn't fair. It's horrible. Again, I am so sorry. MIxxxxx

Leander

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You must be devastated. I personally found the miscarriage association great. You can access some of their information online, and they also send out some leaflets. Other than that be kind to yourself - emotionally and physically you need to heal and that will take time.

Very sorry to hear this leander. Take care of yourself. It's particularly tough isn't it when it's missed. Lots of hugs {{{{{}}}}}

So sorry to hear this, hugs. xxxxxxx

Leander - very sad to hear your news. It must have been such a shock. Lots of sympathy for the difficult days ahead.

Thinking of you.

WSM
xxx

oh leander I am so sorry this has happened to you.
I had a miscarriage before my ds1 and it is a terrible thing to have to go through.
And you are so right, it isn't fair.
Hugs {{{{x{}}}}}

so sorry leander,i can't imagine what you're going through
hugs(((())))

leander, sorry to hear your news. It doesn't help to hear right now, but with time and understanding from those around you, through the ups and downs, it does get easier to get your head around and think of the future. Thinking of you x x

leander, I'm really sorry to hear your news. Take things very easy, be kind to yourself and lots of love, x

so unfair leander
lots of love and hugs

I'm so sorry . Look after yourself and lots of love xxx

Sympathies from me too. I have had 2 missed miscarriages, very similar to yours. It feels like someone has torn your heart out. Look after yourself.

Leander - you'll know if you read this board that it happened to me this week too - and at 12 weeks. I also had no problems with the first pregnancy. It's just such a tremendous shock. I hadn't really considered it as a possibility. I'm finding that spending time with my daughter is really helpful. I'll be thinking of you alot. All the very best.

Thankyou for all your kind words and hugs.
Ghosty, I hope that was the case for me I just can't bear the thought of my baby being dead for 3 wks and not knowing and still getting excited and planning for its arrival.Now I just want it all over.I go into hospital tomorrow for my next 2 tablets and just hope they work I couldn't cope with going through this and then having to have an operation,I still haven't started bleeding properly but I do have terrible tummy pains and nausea.I just want to get back to normal.

Oh welshmum I am so sorry I didn't know.My thoughts go out to you.My ds is staying with my parents as we have to be at the hospital at 8am but I can't wait to get him home tomorrow.

SO SO SORRY LEANDER I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. I WENT THROUGH THE EXACT SAME THING IN SEPT. 2002. I WAS A LITTLE OVER 12 WEEKS AND MY BABY HAD NO HEARTBEAT. IT ALSO STARTED WITH THE BROWN DISCHARGE AND BLEEDING. IT SOUNDS WAY TOO FAMILIAR. I HAVE FELT YOUR PAIN. I HAD A CHOICE TO MISCARRY ON MY OWN OR SCHEDULE A D&C WHICH I WENT WITH THE D&C BECAUSE I COULDN'T BARE TO HAVE THE BABY INSIDE OF ME ANOTHER SECOND. THEY USED TO TELL ME ALSO THAT IT HAPPENED FOR A REASON. AFTER MY BABY HAVING NO HEARTBEAT AND MY MANY SERIES OF MISCARRIAGES HOW MANY TIMES CANE PEOPLE SAY THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN. IT WAS AT THE POINT THAT YOU WANT TO BE LIKE (SHUT THE !%$* UP) BUT THEY JUST TRY TO CONSOLE AND MEAN WELL. I WAS TOLD BY A WISE WOMEN (MY MOTHER) THAT IT IS JUST THAT MY BABY WASN'T READY TO BE BORN YET. WHICH SOUNDED ALLOT BETTER TO ME WHILE I WAS IN A VERY SENSITIVE STATE. YOUR ARE NOT ALONE. WHEN YOU ARE IN NEED YOU HAVE NO CLUE HOW MUCH THIS WEBSITE HELPS. IT HELPED ME SO MUCH AND ITS AMAZING HOW CLOSE YOU GET TO FEEL FOR STRANGERS. PLEASE KEEP IN TOUCH AND UPDATE ON HOW YOU ARE!!!
HUGS HUGS HUGS.