Ohh, matilda, I'm so sorry for your loss. Thanks, sybil.
My darling boy was stillborn on April 10th, so I'm just a few weeks ahead of you on this awful, awful road. No mother should have to bury their child, but it is something that can help. Most funeral directors don't charge for their services under these circumstances. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to PM me. I have outlined some of the details of Benedict's funeral on my thread for him (you should be able to find it at the bottom of my profile). I initially thought that I wanted a very private funeral, but then decided that that was too much like hiding him away, and we are still so proud of our beautiful boy, we wanted to share as much of him with our loved ones as possible, and celebrate the joy he gave us.
I also have a three year old daughter, and she has been a blessing and a saviour. I sometimes think if we had experienced this pain with our first child, I might not be here. It's so hard though - at this age, they are very aware of what's going on without being able to really understand it. Be honest with her and let her ask whatever questions she has.
SANDS are a great place to get support and advice. My local SANDS group offers one to one support and a monthly peer support group. It might be worth contacting them, or Cruse, etc. Please also stop by our thread, you will see that we are all asking exactly the same questions as you.
Daniel is a lovely name. I will keep him, and you all, in my thoughts and prayers.