stillborn twin - feeling really low, anyone else gone through this?

[Eeek]

Hi

I have posted before but am mainly a lurker so I hope you don't mind this one dropping in.

The header says it all really, one of my twins was stillborn, one born healthy and doing really well. I'm coping pretty well most of the time but today it's really hit me that no-one mentions my dead twin. It's as if he never existed for everyone else, as if because I have the healthy one, everything must be OK. This week was bound to be hard as it's a kind of anniversary but it's hitting me much more than I expected.

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you cope with the real anniversaries?

[quackers]

Kittie, I'm so sorry for your losses. I have a lovely verse sent to me by my very good friend as it is the due date of my first loss this week. It is so apt for this thread and I will type it all in the next day or 2. I just know it will be such a comfort to all on here. LOL to you xxxxxxx

[mellon1971]

I LOST MY TWINS AT 21 WEEKS AND NEARLY DIED MYSELF THROUGH HAVING STEP B WHICH THEY KNEW ABOUT WHEN I WAS 17WKS WHY

[throckenholt]

TAMBA run a freephone help line that you can ring - it may well help to talk things through with people who know what you are going through.

The number is 0800 138 0509 (Mon-Fri 7-10pm, weekends 10am-10pm)

they also have an email [email protected]

[butterflymum]

Mellon, I am so sorry to hear your dreadful news. Although it will not give you answers, you may find it helpful to read some more about other mumsnetters with experience of Strep B on this thread. Also, you may find it helpful to speak with Jane or one of the others at Group B Strep Support Group , if you haven't already done so.

Throckenholt's suggestion is good and there are other organisations which you can contact (eg SANDS).

You sound as if you want to talk about this and that is important. Answers may not always be there, but you will get lots of support, encouragement and help from fellow mumsnetters or staff at the various agencies suggested. Through talking, you may eventually find some way of coping and be able to move forward.

butterfly

[Quackers]

I am so sorry for your losses mellon. Do you feel like chatting to some of us. There are people here who have suffered the degree of loss you have any may be able to offer some support. Mumsnet is very supportive and there is always someone to listen and very often someone who has experienced the same /similar situation. Lots of love and hugs xxx Was this very recently??

[bunny2]

Mellon, I am so sorry. Please come here for support when you need it.

[butterflymum]

Mellon, are you still around? How are you feeling today? Hopefully, if you have contacted some of the organisations suggested, you are getting the support you deserve and need. Don't forget to let us know.

Thinking of you. Take care.

butterfly