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What would you do with is behaviour.. please help me

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CRAZYCREW · 23/04/2010 21:43

It is not for me but a child minded child I used to look after. H eis boy of 11. His mother died when he was three and the father raised him a lone and done a fantastic job to be honest and he has a secure home but he runs circles around his father....

the story so far.. I helped the father appeal to get his son into a good school where my children attend. he has only been there since Sept and has been banned fro the school bus for palying taliban music, answering the bus driver back and swearing also. H eha salso bullying at school and is generally very naughty.
Last week I had arrnaged to take him out and his father was going to give me £30 for the trip and going to theme park and when he went to the bank (his father) there was no money in. The boy has ordered a x box controller of amazon in his emaila ddrss and an x box from game .com. this totalled £150...
His father had also won him an x box on ebay local for £60 but he could not pay for this either due to this fraud. This was all last wek and in the morning the father is going to collect the x box and the boy has just tole me he can have it and play with it.

I have told the man it is serious and needs steming in the bud now. The mans steps children from his late wife were naughty and went to bad boy schools and stole from relatives and i dont want to see this lovely boy... always polie with me go bad but as an outsider i canm only guide bhis father and do so much.

I am being to firm telling his fther he should not get to play on the x box for 4 weeks and ground him for 2 weeks say... what would you do in this situation.

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LynetteScavo · 23/04/2010 21:51

I would go ballistic! If my 11 yo bought things on-line without my consent...with my money(which I can see happening, so am very careful with passwords!) there is no way I would let him have what ever he ordered!

He woudl be in fro the lecture of his life.

The only thing I can think would help this dad would be a parenting class for parents of teenagers...do you think there might be one in your area.

Anyway, what does Taliban music sound like?

Chaotica · 23/04/2010 21:53

The taliban ban music and destroy all evidence of it? How could he play taliban music??

sheilatakeabow · 23/04/2010 21:55

WTF is Taliban music?

CRAZYCREW · 23/04/2010 21:56

I dont know what it sounds like to be honest it is what his father told me... his father is at his wits end and the more i try to help the moe he thinks I am getting at him for his parenting skills. His father is not into parenting classes at all or that sort of thing if you know what I mean.

I too cannot beleive he has done it but he obviously worked out when his ftahers benefits were being paid as gets it every other week and he did it at 2am in the morning...very clever i must admit as must have registered for an amazon account and a play.com accound in his own email address but his fathers name very clever for an 11 year old dont you think.

I would kill my son also but hope eh would not do as brought up with values and respect.
I think the worst thing is he has only after a week admitted to doing it and swore to his father he had not.

Thanks for reply.

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CRAZYCREW · 23/04/2010 21:58

the muic was sent to his phone.. I know nothing about music but it was the school had said to his father.

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LynetteScavo · 23/04/2010 22:12

I don't think there is anything more you can do..apart from talk to the boy yourself, as his dad obviously thinks he's doing OK.

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