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name for private parts

109 replies

PavlovtheCat · 09/04/2010 08:31

I know this has been done to death but I cannot be arsed to go search for old threads.

So. What do your 3 year old girls refer to their parts as?

She calls her 'her girly bits'. Which has up to now been fine. DS is 19wks and we refer to his willy as his willy. So, now girly parts does not seem specific enough, and I find 'vagina' to harsh/clinical at this age to refer to it on an everyday basis, although she does know it is a vagina.

Is there a willy equivalent?

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pigletmania · 11/04/2010 21:15

Just reading the rest of the thread cant believe how out of hand its got my goodness. There was a similar thread a while about names for boys bits and it was not like this, why are girls bits more contraversial. I dont know why giving nicknames to your vulva is disempowering and means you are ashamed of it no way. Dont think men are ashamed of their bits to call them all sorts of things, means that they are proud of them and are well acquainted with them, mabey thats why they spend most of the time with their hands down their trousers

zazen · 12/04/2010 09:25

I think this thread was fine - there was a bit where there was a firm grasp of the wrong end of the stick and a hot under the collar bit, but as that poster says herself, she overreacted has apologised, has accepted an apology and has gone off to calm down and have a bath.

Chibi, don't change your name. I think your posts were valid - i certainly didn't pick up that you had anything other than the best interests of everyone at heart. I sorry you were abused as a child, it's difficult to recover from that, and I hope you have the support you need, as I hope do all of us in that boat.

I like to empower my DD by pointing out the anatomy of most things [geeky]

I'm not from the UK and we call Dd's 'bits' her vulva, front bot, and bits - I can't stand 'down there' as a description [blurgh].. and 'vagina' isn't relevant at this time.

Octaviapink · 12/04/2010 11:13

I think this thread is a perfect example of why Mumsnet ought to update its bulletin board software to allow posters to delete or edit their own posts. I know from my own experience (not here) and much evidence! how easy it is to post something that you haven't thought through or phrased in quite the way you meant it. You can end up starting a fight you didn't mean or want to have, whereas going back to a post you've made and altering or deleting it can make things a lot better.

There are several packages that allow for this - if any admins are reading this please take on board!

Dancergirl · 12/04/2010 15:11

FGS at this thread.

It's a noony in this house. All my dds say noony from my nearly 9 year old to my 3 year old. In time they will learn the correct name but for now noony is fine.

And if I had a boy it would be a willy.

Rightly or wrongly, I AM a bit embarrassed about correct names and the whole sex thing. I hope that doesn't give them any hang ups in later life but I can't help the way I feel.

cheesesarnie · 12/04/2010 15:20

dd has always said girly bits.and ds1 and now ds2 have always said willy or penis.thats what theyre comfortable with .

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 12/04/2010 15:58

I don't think it matters if you use a nickname or the anatomical word for a child's genitalia - as long as you are open to discussion about private parts, what they are for, and how no-one has the right to touch you if you don't want them to. That's where the 'knowledge is power' thing comes in. It doesn't matter if it's a fanjo, a foof, a flower or a vagina, or a willy or penis or schlong or whatever - as long as you know that it is yours, and you have the right to say who can touch it, and how.

I suspect this was what chibi was getting at, but it didn't come over at all well, and it did look as if she was saying that parents who used nicknames weren't arming their children with the knowledge they needed to be empowered about their own bodies.

Needanewname · 19/04/2010 21:58

Wow I can';t believe what happened here.

Chilbi - you have no need to change your name, I don;t think that anyone else interperated your post in the same way as ISNT did.

ISNT, for whatever reason (and you don;tneed to explain) this obviously has touched a raw nerve with you, but I think stepping out was the right thing.

MN can be great at times, but unfortunately you can misunderstand what someone is saying and take things the wrong way which is what I think happened here.

Belle03 · 19/04/2010 22:16

Like dancergirl, we say noony as well. According to a dutch friend of a friend, it means front bottom-or so I've been told. It seems better than flower or twinkle which just seem a bit twee.

allbie · 21/04/2010 12:56

Well, we call vaginas 'wilma' in our house and penises 'willy'. No problem....until you read the Magic Key books and have the whole family laughing hysterically! Why make it a big deal?

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