name for private parts

[PavlovtheCat]

I know this has been done to death but I cannot be arsed to go search for old threads.

So. What do your 3 year old girls refer to their parts as?

She calls her 'her girly bits'. Which has up to now been fine. DS is 19wks and we refer to his willy as his willy. So, now girly parts does not seem specific enough, and I find 'vagina' to harsh/clinical at this age to refer to it on an everyday basis, although she does know it is a vagina.

Is there a willy equivalent?

Bliney, last time I looked there were no more posts! I did not really intend for a fight ladies so play nicely eh? I only asked for alternative names to the clinical ones, not for opinions to be forced with such aggression .

I vaguely recall calling mine a 'mini' for some reason actually .

I quite like 'foofyflorabingbong' thanks for that one, we shall use it from now on!

There is no harm in calling bits whatever you want to call them, although there will inevitably come a time when your child will learn that their vagina/vulva is not a tuppence/froofroo/janet and that their penis is not a willy or whatever. At this stage it will depend on their other life circumstances and experiences as to how they assimilate this into their psyche. I'm guessing that some children can be quite shocked by the revelation that it's not the 'proper' word and that this could also, potentially, attatch some shame to it. I'm also guessing that most kids would just shrug their shoulders and get on with it.

I'm really not sure where the idea that Chibi was suggesting that calling 'bits' by names other than their 'official' ones meant that children were left open to abuse? Knowledge is power, but it is also up to each parents individual judgement when knowledge and how knowledge is gained. I think Chibi made this clear.

Fairy was popular when I was a kid. I don't like it.

Oh we have used loads of non anatomically correct names, boobies, bum, tummy, toothy pegs, tootsies off the top of my head. Obviously we drop these as we get older.

DS has a todgey. Don't know why, it just happened that way. No doubt it will change as he grows up.

Seems to be quite an emotive subject but I don't think it's going to damage any child's psyche, 'wubblybubbly' is right, we all probably use incorrect terms for many things not just private parts. We call the hoover, the hoo-har in our house, Lord knows what will happen to the little one once she discovers this is incorrect. Years of therapy I guess .
I mean how many of us honestly teach our kids to refer to an anus as an anus?

You don't say Cranium or Thorax do you? It's just head and chest. A family name for genitalia is fine IMO. Nothing too twee though.
FWIW it was front bottom as I was growing up and suppose will be when DD becomes aware of her body parts.

Chibi I'm not sure why you're getting so affronted you're the one who said something really offenisve.

"Knowledge is power, especially as concerns women/girls and their bodies"

What on earth did you mean by that then? if not what I have said then what?

You have said that people who have children who use words that are not anatomically correct are disempowering their children in matters to do with their bodies - so what does that mean? i am hard pressed to see another meaning TBH.

If you were to say that that particular comment was ill advised that would be fine but you seem to be standing by it.

I would ask again - what exactly do you think happens to "women and girls" who are not empowered in matters pertaining to their own bodies?

Your comment was utterly crass and a huge extrapolation about the otehr behaviours of parents who have a "nickname" for genitalia.

I'm sorry OP but people can't just come onto nice threads like this and chuck language like that around, relegating the majority of mothers on the thread to the status of inert repressed prudes who will fail to educate their children properly in matters to do with the body and sex and thus will leave their chidlren open to reaping the known consequences of this type of behaviour.

"I made a choice to call my daughter's genitals by their name. You asked me why."

No I didn't. I understand why you do that, and I also understand why others don't. Both are fine by me.

What I asked you was what you meant by the extremely sinister sentence which was aimed at people who do not use anatomically correct names:

""Knowledge is power, especially as concerns women/girls and their bodies"

I asked you what exactly you meant by that because, as I have pointed out, it is extremely offensive.

Tinkle.

Well its mini, or froo froo all the way, oooh quite like Twinkle as well. I know its so annoying, the thread was meant to be a lighthearted and fun topic, and its got hyjacked by feminist shite. You dont call breasts mammaries, pooh-faces, and wee wee urinating everyday, we tend to have terms used everyday whats the problem fgs.

Sorry I didn't mean to defecate all over the thread but I am just so angry.

Dont go to dd do you needs to make faces or urinate, or according a some that is wrong i need to use the correct terms, ooh my dh really gets on my mammaries

We use the names 'willy' and 'bits', although DD tends to refer to everything 'down there' as her bum.

I must admit I don't think I could use any 'twee' names as I still remember people in school who used words such as foofoo (vagina), dingy (penis), and big job (poo)!

Saying that, we referred to girls and boys bits as 'wee works' when I was little, which kind of makes me think of some kind of a urine factory now!

(BTW there was another thread a few weeks ago where someones DC was punished in school for using the word 'willy' which did make me wonder whether we should have gone for a twee version).

I taught my kid to call her looloo a vulva.

you called me a child rape apologist.

I'M the offensive one?

I think that my child should know the names for things. I don't think vulva is scarily advanced, or too clinical. I think it is at her level, as I have not gone into detail about what all the parts that make up her vulva are called, or named her internal organs for her.

I am not bothered by what others do. Slightly mystified at times, yes, but repect their right to call things what they want.

I am BEYOND offended at the implication that I want other people's children abused/hope they will be abused/ think it is abusive to call body parts nicknames etc.

how about you respect my right to teach my child to call her vulva by that name without implying I am an apologist/supporter of rape.

FWIW I am also going to teach her crazy shit like that she has the right to decide who can touch her, and that she doesn't have to touch anyone ever if she doesn't want to. Bet that blows your mind too. From what I can see of your mindset it is reactionary, and very, very scary.

It's offensive that I think a child should know what her body parts are called?

At no point did I suggest anything bad was going to happen, psyche wise or in any other sense to those children who grow up with nicknames.

Show me where I said that.

I am seriously fucked off about this now.

OP asked for names, I said what I use, and I have gotten nothing but grief and accused of supporting rape or spreading feminist shite as a result.

@Chibli

What I found offensive, if anything, was that you seemed to look down on those who do use alt. names for body parts. And that you think that you and you daughter are better than us who don't.

I would actually really like to know what words your DD uses for poo, pee etc.. Because I find it hard to believe that it would be the 'proper' words..

Wow! I'v only just started using mumsnet and didn't quite realise how things can spiral out of control! Maybe everyone should just calm down, find somewhere comfy on which to place their frou-frous and have a nice cup of tea.

I am not english/from the uk

calling bodyparts by nicknames esp ones like front bottom mystifying to me

what you consider normal and good isn't for everyone, sorry

am trying really hard not to be offended by the suggestion that I want other children raped fgs, and failing

@drama

I am guessing you only nickname the genitals, why not the fingers? why not the knees? Why not etc etc etc

do you thin you are better than me because I don't? do you think it makes you a better parent? you seem like you think this

had enough now, you can all take your finkyfooloos and shove them up your winkydingdongs

Well, in the U.K. we have lots of nicknames for different parts of the body, like belly for stomach or mush for face so maybe it's just a British thing, although when I was an au pair in Germany we used nicknames for the kids private parts too.

We do nickname other parts of the body actually.
Stomach is belly and feet are trotters(!) in this house. And am sure there are more.

Nobody said there was a right or wrong, but you did imply that those who give alt. names are less knowledgeable..

it was boabie and muff for me and my brother growing up