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Original poster

If i describe this child, will you tell me what you think please.

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sunburntats · 05/09/2009 19:57

Age 6
incapable of sitting down for any more than 30 seconds
never sat through an entire DVD or film at cinema
never ever shuts up, question after question after question.
incapable of concentrating for more than 20 seconds
didnt sleep through the night til he was 4, now is up every morning by 7am
literally bounces around a room
is incapable of walking in a straight line, has to hop, skip, jump, climb, roll, run form one place to another
Is forever fiddling, messing around with stuff, cannot leave stuff alone.
will pick off wallpaper if there is a tiny bit there, if at the table at mealtimes has to mess around with knife and fork, tapping, banging scraping it.
makes noise no matter what he is doing, as loudly as he can.
hands/legs always on the move, fiddling and moving stuff.

now tell me truly, is this normal 6 year old behaviour?

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hmc · 05/09/2009 23:08

Shall I post it a third time for good measure?

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sunburntats · 05/09/2009 23:10

i was just thinking of asking other parents of the same age, what their kids behaviour is like, is my boy VERY different to theirs.
just guidance i suppose.
obviously will got hrough proper qualified channels.

he is my only one yes, could not even consider going through it all agin, no way. cant have any more as it happens.

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IdontMN2makecopyforlazyjournos · 05/09/2009 23:11

You can't have read the posts that carefully if you can't tell which posts on the threads are the OPs and which aren't.

"but whilst your ds may well be a handful, is he really as challenging as the OP's? Did you fully read and reflect on her description"

If that's how you usually talk to people, perhaps you don't consider yourself condescending. Nevertheless, you are.

CarGirl · 05/09/2009 23:13

Idon'tMN you do make very very valid points I suppose that is why I am so enthusiastic about INPP and similar type camp treatment because they will help anyone fulfill their potential. The brain & body is so complex and I don't think in the culture we live we actually expose our dc to what they need anymore. Also a lot of this stuff is hereditary.

I do think as parent though you "know" when your child is just that little bit more extreme than 95% of their peers. It can be something and nothing but the schools current attitude isn't helping.

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sunburntats · 05/09/2009 23:15

no he doesnt and that is really intersting what you say about boundries cargirl.
School do not describe him as any of thse things you say.

we definitely do have boundries, very very clear ones at that, they are what keep me sane and afford me control over him.

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morocco · 05/09/2009 23:16

do you think he would suit a different type of school? what is their ethos?

Overmydeadbody · 05/09/2009 23:16

Nothing rong with asking other parents what they think and how he compares to your DS via the internet.

It's quite a good idea actually, because then you get other people's experiences and guidance.

OP speak to your school SENCO too, find out if he has an IEP yet.

Sounds sensible to let him settle for the next two weeks and then see ho things are.

Good luck with it all.

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sunburntats · 05/09/2009 23:19

it is a small village school,

we did consider moving him but its a huge move

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IdontMN2makecopyforlazyjournos · 05/09/2009 23:19

Nothing wrong with asking, no. There might be quite a lot wrong with the answers you get.

Am bowing out of this - am getting too irritated to be constructive, OP good luck. I'm sure your DS is just fine but if you are worn down by it (and it sounds like you are) then you need to get some help. You say your DH and he are very tight, I wonder whether your DH agrees that he is problematic or just considers him a proper "boy" who needs a lot of stimulus? Something for you to mull.

hmc · 05/09/2009 23:22

I'm going to do something very juvenile:

Whatever IdontMN, whatever....Bored of this now.

sunburntats - I'm glad you are getting some good advice and pointers on this thread. I hope it all gets resolved for you.

With the very big caveat that I am in no way qualified to make any kind of assessment, I would just add my twopenceworth that my close friend's 7 year old shares many of the behaviours that you have described and he is dyspraxic. Can't see anything wrong with you going through a process to exclude (or confirm)possible disorders like this...you clearly have quite major concerns and these probably won't go away unless you follow them through. Best of luck

jenjen98 · 05/09/2009 23:25

Sounds exactly like my ds, he used to power napfor 10 mins at a time until 6 years old! constantly on the go and could not keep quiet for more than 30 seconds. He is eleven now and still has a few issues, he can't walk thhrough a door without a commando roll, i regularly find him at the top of a pole, we are still frequently attending A&E and he cannot sit still to eat a meal! However his end of year tests were the best the school have ever had and was described as a very valuable member of the school and He has completed the whole Harry potter series in the summer holidays! I was convinced he had ADHD for years but my mother, a professional in this field, warned me off getting him diagnosed as she beleived it was just a lively personality! she was right! hang on in there and keep with the omegas, ds is still taking them and there is a massive change when he does not.!! really feel for you, its really tough but you really have to do what you feel is right, no one knows him better than you!

Portofino · 05/09/2009 23:26

I have a 5.6 yo dd. She is verbally demanding and wants a lot of interaction at times, but she isn't bouncing about like your ds and has a reasonable concentration span - could watch 30+ mins of tv/dvd for example.

I honestly don't know about boys, but this does sound not "normal". You should certainly be seeking advice. Even if it is not something diagnosible it must be very hard going for you!

MarmMummy · 05/09/2009 23:27

OP - sounds like a perfect plan to me!

(off to bed now ..... good luck!)

morocco · 05/09/2009 23:29

shame about the school. fwiw if it was my ds, I would not want him to go to a small village school with an attitude like the one you describe but I'm guessing you don't have lots of other options apart from similar type schools in the area? put some more pressure on the school to deal with things better - get them to be v specific and tell you the reasoning behind the strategies. push push push. my parents left it up to the school and my siblings are a mess. I would never let a school get away with the crap they did

mathanxiety · 06/09/2009 03:48

Maybe way out, but what about allergies? Not necessarily food, but chemicals (in carpet, clothes, paint, other objects in the environment). There's book by a Dr Doris Rupp or Rapp, called 'Is This Your Child' that I found very helpful for one of my DCs who had sleep problems like your DS's.

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