Illogical reasons for tantrums in toddlers. Share with me please.

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Out for a walk today. My ds threw an absolute wobbler because the flock of seagulls on the seafront had the sheer audacity to fly off when he chased them.

He then proceeded to fill the front of his sandals with sand, looked up at me as if I was responsible for this horrendous crime screaming at the top of his voice "Mummygetitout'! Mummygetitout!"

was not sure wether to piss myself with laughter or be embarrased.

Dd 3.3 is quite chilled really, but when ill she really wobbles.
The other day we ran upstairs as she was sobbing, completely beside herself...

her feet were outside the duvet

Oh, oh! and she burst into tears at my new haircut (cheers love ) because I looked like a 'different mummy', and then when the front door was painted. Guess she is finding change hard at the mo...

Had and interesting morning with DD1 the other day. We had the cereal debate, which do you want? This one, that one, this one etc. Decided, then I PUT IT IN THE WRONG BOWL!!!!

The noise! Luckily my twins find her fascinating rather than disturbing (they are 8 months). They watched, until I realised they might be taking notes!! I moved them quickly!

mum to ds2 who is 19 months and LOVING this thread. Thank you have snorted tea over computer. THe banana seems to have a storng theme, not had it here yet.

Only real sticking point is changing nappy, mainly puttin nappy on his nakey bum.

Oh and he is obsessed with doors.... Funny little things toddlers eh?

Awen has reminded me of another classic DD moment - they she decided to show me her full potty by holding it up and tipping the contents onto her head. Then crying because 'the wee came out of me and then out of the potty and now I'm a pee-pee head'.

I actually nearly lost continence myself when she said this!

Hooray I'm not alone! My DD spent 20 minutes screaming at me that she didn't want a wee, so when I told her I was going downstairs, she threw herself on the floor saying 'but I need a wee wee and you won't let me do one'. Someone should write a book about these to lighten those dark moments!

Oh bless you all. I have a stinking cold, as do the two DDs, so having a grim and very waily morning. You have so cheered me up

lol!

all so wonderfully illogical isn't it!

yes dd will have a meltdown over the oddest things.

yesterday was because she couldn't fit a spoon into her handbag!!

Because I wouldn't put her blue blanket over my head and sit there silently whilst she ran around completely naked bar wellingtons....in the house...

Just had the lunchtime meltdown. First because I dared to touch his rice with his spoon. The because I dared to touch his yoghurt with a (different) spoon.

Now he is sobbing on the floor because I shouted at him for waking dd up, when I spent the best part of an hour getting her to sleep.

I can feel another screaming meltdown brewing, because I won't put another DVD on (we're going to nursery in half an hour. Thank fuck)...."NOOOOOOO CBEEBIES! DEE BEE DEE BEE (DVD)"

"HAVE MORE DEE BEE DEE BEE!"

Cripes. have just read through this almost wetting myself with laughter yet with the dark dark thought hiding in the back of my mind that I have all this to come. At the moment the tantrums are at least logical but she's only 16mo. Give me strength. Not going to help my indecision about having another one!! Sending very supportive vibes to all the amazing mummies and daddies that are managing not to lose it themselves when faced with some of these!

"BUT I WANT TO BE A FIMBLE!!!"

Who's dc was it who wanted a topknot? I think them and my ds would be mates.

Roll on 1 o clock and nursery time.

Ahhh but CricketsMum, one thing I didn't realise until my own became a toddler is just how funny they are when they are tantrumming!

I would see my sister laughing at my nephew's wobblers, and think "how mean!" but frankly when your 2yo is flinging himself against the sofa in a rage because the cat walked past him (the cheek!) you realise it is actually pretty funny

Snickersnack snap!

God, this thread is making me laugh.

What crazy little mixed things they are.

Mine kicks off if I dare to do a wee before her in the morning.

Put the telly on before she is ready.

Give her any food but beans on toast or sausages.

Go upstairs without her.

Wipe her bum.

And on and on and on........

Bring on preschool!

@melmog peeing before her ! how dare you!- rofl - actually rofl at lots (esp whomoved ';pee-peehead!!!)

yesterday i went to pick up the baby, camback to the garden to find herhead down screaming her head off. No reason at all! checked her all over for bites and stings

Ninky nonk vs pinky-ponk

a tough one! I prefer the pinky-ponk.

current 'reasons'

baby gets fed when she doesn't

mummy doesn't see her doing something 'good' (cos mummy is spending all her time on Mumsnet)
so cute..she stands forlornly giving herself a sad little round of applause for her unnoticed goodness.
fortunately her speech isn't that good yet so possibly her tantrums are greatly less rational than i presume them to be...

mine has just started doing this -when does it end? I never pay her attention for it, but she keeps on doing it anyway...

We live in the middle of the countryside and DD1 used to scream 'cuddle me' to the sheep as we drove past them, weeping tears of frustration because they wouldn't comply.

Oh and I think I've written here before about the forty minute car journey during which she shouted continually.

'I want to go to Skibbereen ..'

Then, 'This isn't the way to Skibbereen'

Finally when we were on the main street there was a ten second pause followed by 'This isn't Skibbeereen' and a huge tantrum.

And really, compared to DS1, she is a very reasonable child.

Mummy, why can't I have a lion's mane? I want hair like a lion, Mummmeeee mumeeee!!!

And upset at breaking bananas and short sleeved T shirts in this house too

Did I say upset more like melting with horror

Oh yes, banana breakage, in fact any fruit processing. On difficult days DD would rather eat an orange including the skin than have mummy tamper with it, and regularly eats an apple from one side to the other, core and all (will she grow a tree from her intestines or is this urban myth?).

The caring sharing side - any food stuff - DD - mummy try it
Mummy - no thank you, you have it
DD - have it mummy
Mummy - No thank you
DD - HAVE IT!!!! = pushes said item into face

Baby (doll) in the pram, baby out the pram repeat until bedtime - death to all who interfere.

Nap time - want stripey blanket nonono want flowery blanket, nonono toes in , toes out - Mummy thinks it's 24 degrees who needs a blanket?! Mummy's brain is suffering from repetative strain injury!

Somedays we laugh and some we walk away in despair

slimyak - be grateful we have 'for you mummy, I don't want it anymore'.

Followed by a ten minute diatribe on 'Mummy wouldn't eat my dinner'

Today's efforts included 'the velcro is fuzzy', 'my nice cold milk was too cold' and 'I will absolutely not remove my rainmac in the house and will wear it to bed' (didn't argue with the last one in any way I just said 'okay then' and she still had a tantrum!

Laughing out loud at "HAVE IT!!!" !!

Oh that reminds me: dd giving me the last bit of her carrot stick doughnut, saying 'you have it mummy'.

'Are you sure, dd?'

'Yes, I don't want it anymore'

Cue two minutes later 'i want my carrot stick doughnut!' and telling everybody for at least a week 'mummy ate my carrot stick doughnut!

I now practically make her sign a contract when she gives me anything.

Lol at lots of these!!

Ds (2.5) also screams over bananas breaking - weird!

He does the 'have it' thing too followed by 'EAT IT' 'EAT YOUR/MY DINNER UP' then if I really really refuse, 'EAT THIS, EAT THIS, EAT THIS....'

Best one yet was...

DS - My (I) want play in snow now mummy, lets go
Me - Erm, its July and a heatwave, there's no snow
DS - Yes my see snow on telly, snow outside NOW mummy
Me- I cant make it snow darling, its not time for it yet
DS (heading to front door) - why you say no snow for mummy, let me have snow mummy, let me let me let me NOWWWWWWWW (screaming for 1/2 hour)
Me - sand is a bit like snow, we could play with that
Ds stops, looks at me, says 'dont be ridiculous mummy' and continues...

Other illogical ones...

because he isnt allowed to wear his raincoat and hood indoors when it is 30 degrees outside

because I cant find the specific receipt he was playing with in Tesco 3 weeks ago (how does he know its not the right one when I give him another one?!!!)

because I will not let him put a dirty nappy on his head

because his playdough 'people' he made fell apart (again, how could he tell, they looked like big blobs!)

because ice creams melt

and so on and so on....

My child is normal (and relaaaaax) .

So many familiar ones on here, including the Ninky Nonk one, the snow one and the tormenting the cat one.

It's not broken bananas at this end, but whether he wants the banana taken out of the skin or left so that he can peel it down himself.

Also wanting things in books and lately, tantrums because he can't go inside the television to play and wobblies because things aren't ready to harvest on the allotment.

oh yes, the half eaten food. So todays tantrum was ..

mummy, I don't want any more eclair, you take it off me (in his carseat)

mummy takes it off him and throws the inch long sucked bit of eclair out the window

cue half hour long tantrum because he wants to EAT HIS ECLAIR MUMMY !!!! I want it back NOW !!!!! where did it go, give it back now !!!!

I mean - I'm driving, what do you do with an inch long half sucked bit of eclair FGS !!!

oh yes the shouted demand whilst driving tantrum.....

my got teddy, teddy bounce, boing boing boing

oh no, where teddy, teddy fall down

muuuuuuummmmmmmmeeeeeeeeeee

mummy get teddy, mummy get teddy, mummy get teddy, mummy get teddy

me: no darling, mummy is driving, I can't get your teddy, we will get him when we get home

noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, teddy, oh teddy, oh teddy, sob sob, oh teddy