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'1-2-3 Magic' - recommendation

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FouxDuFaFa · 23/06/2009 18:41

I posted a few weeks ago about my 3.5 year old (can't find the thread now).

He was whining and tantrumming a lot. Hitting me, answering back and being generally unruly.

Someone recommended '1-2-3 Magic' by Thomas Phelan and I have to report things have improved enormously!

I was a bit sceptical when I saw how 'American' it looked, but the advice offered is very sensible and easy to digest.

Just wanted to say 'thank you' to whoever it was - sorry I can't remember who

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Noonki · 23/06/2009 18:50

I thought you meant saying 'I'm going to count to three...onnnneee etc'

which works like magic with my 3.8 year old

never read the book though!

ICANDOTHAT · 23/06/2009 19:11

I'm a great fan of '1-2-3- Magic" and it may have been me as I live to spout off about it at any given opportunity. I'm glad it worked for you !

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FouxDuFaFa · 23/06/2009 19:29

ICANDOTHAT - I think it was you! Thanks again

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ICANDOTHAT · 23/06/2009 22:07

I know what you mean about the 'American' sounding philosophy ... but when you cut through the 'Jerry Springer' style deliverance (I bought the audio CD) you get good, sound advice and Dr Phelan should know as he has a son with ADHD !

Nahui · 24/06/2009 09:34

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Buda · 24/06/2009 09:38

I found it very good too. I found it particularly good for enabling me to stay in control instead of exploding in temper which is what had been happening.

Funny story though. I was trying this when DS was 3 (he is now almost 8 and has lived to tell the tale!) and one day he was doing something he shouldn't and I said "That's 1", he continued and I said "That's 2". He looked at me, hit me (lightly) and said "That's 3" and took himself off to the stairs! It took all my self control not to laugh. He never did it again thankfully!

madwomanintheattic · 24/06/2009 09:40

lol, when we lived in canada they ran courses in the village. every parent there (it was quite a small village) was basically indoctrinated
worked though

Mums89 · 12/11/2009 11:01

i have never heard of 1-2-3 magic i no i sound a bit naive but can someone help to understand how to do it and how it works

mrsshackleton · 12/11/2009 11:29

I'm at the end of my tether with my 4.9 year old. Would this help or is she too old for it? Links please?

shinybaubles · 12/11/2009 13:26

Brilliant book bought it when mine was 2 out of interest and I just have to say 1 and he behaves.

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