Mummy has to do everything...

[Looneymum]

I wonder has anyone else come across this one. My DD aged just over 3 years will not let DH do anything for her. It is really getting difficult as we also have DD aged 8 months. She screams and goes ballistic if he tries to bath, put her to bed, feed her etc. We have tried me ignoring her as he tries to get her to bed but I can hear her shouting on the monitor "you get Mummy" until she makes herself sick. Perhaps I should just go out of the house at bedtime... All thoughts gratefully received!

ignore her and don't pander to her nor rise to it

sorry must be a 'mare

Could you give her a choice about whether to have mummy or daddy for some things, like "who would you like to read the next story". And then when it's bedtime say "it's daddy and it's non negiotiable". My ds spends so much time trying to say this that he forgets that he wanted a particular parent in the first place.

Agree with twiglett, this must be a right pain. Tell her though, v firmly that this is a NEW RULE and then show her you mean to stick to it. She will get over it. Poor you.

hi...just a suggestion... maybe for a few days you and DH could both do the routine with her together so that she knows that he can do it just aswell as u and she gets used to his being there at that time. each day let DH do more and more e.g one day just be there for the bath.... next day help with the bath and then the third day give the bath himself. it just seems that she might be feeling that because of DD2 she just has to make do with DH when she used to have you. hth

I'd take the baby and go away for the weekend - sounds like their relationship could do with a helping hand IYKWIM.

Thanks for all the pearls of wis! We have just been away for a weeks hol in Spain and DD1 and DH seemed to bond. Unfortunately, the minute we stepped back off the plane only mummy would do again - what a nightmare. We have tried doing the bedtime/bath routine together then me trying to slope off while DH takes over. It always seems to end in a screaming fit. Anyway, I feel slightly refreshed from the hol so hopefully a new positive attitude will help.....!!

A screaming fit over something like tthis is only temper - it's not emotional trauma. I think you have to decide who is the boss here! Atm she is and I think it makes little children unhappy to have too much power.