dd cries/clings more than most other children.

[ilovetochat]

dd is 21 months and not really a kissy cuddly child, at home she is very confident, talks all the time, plays/chats to visitors and throws herself around, jumping over things etc with no crying/whinging.
yesterday she fell over in a carpark and cut her leg, no crying, just said ouch.

BUT when we are out at toddler groups/classes, she clings round my legs, literally stands on my toes, wants to sit on my lap and cuddle, whinges all the time, cries if she falls onto her bum, and cries if the other dc push past her, take things off her, run near her or play with the same things.

what should i do?

ilovetochat - DD is like that but we've managed to figure it out (now she talks to us about it - she's two and a half). She doesn't like noisy places and gets spooked when lots of kids are running round, she's actually got the same problem as I had when I was a kid - extremely sensitive hearing. Have you checked out and ruled out physical reason for your DDs problem?

no i havent WMMC, but she loves her small music sessions and they are noisy.

In that case, she's probably just too diddy and this will go away in it's own time. DD hated anything like that for ages (was a bit difficult actually since I run one of the bloody things).

Don't feel bad though, it's great she has so much faith in you that you are a constant comfort. DD still isn't very happy at some groups, in others she just legs it off now. But that's a quite recent thing.

It will come, be calm, be happy, rather have a reluctant joiner than a vicious bruiser who stormtroups the ballpit!

i think her size is a factor, every child that starts to walk is immediately bigger than her, even the 12 month olds are bigger, so when a 3 year old flies past she runs away or if trapped she cries.