4 yo has nothing but tantrums.....

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my 4 yo daughter has tantrums over everything and anything....
when we have friends over or we are out in public the escalate to uncontrollable levels!!!
she shouts "shut up" "go away" kicks, bites and has screams....even to her teachers...
she is fine in the morning when walking to school but as soon as she gets to the gates she just loses it....
she has done this at school since she started and there have been days where i break out in tears because i am so embarressed about her behaviour and at home i have tried time out in her room and i open the door and she has trashed it....i have tried naughty spot and her brother won't leave her alone and i find myself losing control and shouting....it is a daily thing and is so exhausting...
can anyone help with any tips??

if she trashes her room remove everything and leave her with just a bed. I did this with my ds1 now 10 when he was around the same age.

When she shouts go away at home do just that walk away and leave her to it, she will get bored before you do especially in an empty room.

oh I know I must sound nasty but it worked.

when you put her in her room another thing i did with ds1 was to throw everything on the floor and say there you go saves you doing it.....it got to the point where he would tidy it up especially when it was his favourite toy/book/teddy.

But seriously try emptying her room....it did work for me.

thank you for your reply....i will try that. nice to know there are others out there with the same problems and its not just me thanks again