Well, he's like that at home too, but it's becoming a bit of a problem at nursery. He's always been inclined to do what he wants to do and not much else - we manage by dint of threats and bribes (please don't just criticise this probably not brilliant strategy - we're looking for help and other ideas here!), but it's now rubbed off onto his nursery behaviour too. The nursery teachers DO make allowances - he has a streaming cold at the moment and I think they think that this is why he was completely uncooperative today. Maybe it is, though he goes from one cold to the next in the winter so I can't keep him off with every runny nose. Anyway, I've been talked to twice by his teacher about this and he hasn't even done a term yet. What the hell can I do to help him?????