e.g. we had just arrived home and I had hands full with a double buggy, the baby and various other bit and pieces while trying to close the door. The toddler starts faffing with large item by the door which means I can't close it. We're all tired and I need to get dinner on etc etc etc. I ask toddler to come and help with x,y,z trying to distract. Deaf ears, so I ask her to leave said item alone etc etc and suddenly it's a game, so I try and prise toddler off item and it all just gets stupid. It irritates the hell out of me too - how do you stop this situation arising / resolve it quickly???? I end up becoming rather shouty