DS (4) starts school in January, and I know he needs to be able to wipe his own bottom by then. I don't want school to associated with difficult things, so haven't mentioned that's why to him, but I have said it's time he starts to learn. Trouble is he won't. He keeps saying he'll do it when he's six . Walking to nursery today, I thought well hey let's try bribing, so I dropped it in as an aside and said howabout this afternoon we go to Woolworths and find something small you can earn if you try to learn. To my surprise he started crying. I gave him a hug, said it's okay and changed the subject. It's weird though, as I haven't gone about it a lot at all, but this is obviously turning into a big stress thing for him. My instinct is to back off and leave it for a few weeks, and maybe start again in November. But time is running out. So come on then - any ideas how to get to January with my mission accomplished?