DS1 lovely child when he's on his own - crazed monster as soon as DS2 is about

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DS1 (7) is a lovely intelligent, funny, thoughtful boy on the rare occasions it's just me & him (or DH and him)

However, he's just plain annoying when Ds2 is about (which is obv most of the time)Nothing too hideous, but general low level bad behaviour, making ridiculous noises, rude(ish) words, not letting DS2 play, refusing to sit still when appropriate, not doing as he's told...

I know it's all to do with attention seeking and sibling rivalry, but does anyone have any tips for getting him to behave like the "real" DS1 more often?

Will watch with interest

Oh tell me about it!! I have this problem with my twins. The usual advice is to give them as much individual time as possible but this is not always that easy!! What age is your DS2?

DS2 is 5, but more "grown up" than DS1 was at that age so they seem closer TBH.

I know the advice is to give them individual attention and you're right, it's not always that easy, but they do get a fair amount and TBH, whilst it is nice at the time, I'm not sure it doesn't make it worse again afterwards, when things are back to normal.

Cant win, can we??

back to the completely ignore the bad behaviour, (not even looking at him)

and telling him so

and praising any good

hark at me - my two (aged 16 months and 3) have spent all day fighting - so really this is a reminder to me

it works everytime with my nephews