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just totally lost my senses. my son is a destructive, bully and i do not know what to do.

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deanychip · 26/08/2008 14:48

I am shaking and cant stop cryig.
He has just completely bullied and hurt his little cousin.....when he thought that no one was watching.

I saw him jumping up and down on her while she cried and cowered in a corner.
what would you do in this situation?

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1ina1000 · 26/08/2008 23:00

Deanychip,

Sending lots of e-support. Either Mascara is extremely lucky or is tempting fate with those comments...
Your comments about a quiet household and a "physical" child ring really true for us too. We are struggling with our 4 year old boy at the moment who just seems really disengaged and casually destructive for no reason we can put our finger on. My problem is finding sanctions that he cares about that don't punish his younger brother (eg not going to the park). But for what it's worth, I echo singswife on the praise and cuddles. Good luck!

Janni · 27/08/2008 00:03

Hold on in there, mothers of little boys. Mine are now 12 and 8 and have long periods of totally silent absorption which I could never have imagined when they were 2-5 year olds.

deanychip · 29/08/2008 10:09

Hi all,
Ds woke up after 2.5 hours!
I brought him downstairs and we sat and had a chat.
He said he did not know why he had done it, AND volunteered that he has squeezed her arm as hard as he could because she wouldnt play what he wanted her to play.

SO, i appologised for shouting and getting mad, i told him why i was mad, we made friends and i together we made a "sorry" card for his little cousin.

We are continuing with the strict diet restrictions, with calm voices, and he is better.
We are not going to see the family, its not healthy.

Speaking to friends about it, they all say what you all say, but what is more reassuring is that each and every one has said "oh God, i remember when mine went through that stage"

What rings in my ears and panicks me are his teachers words after she called me in because he was squishing snails, she said "things like this can lead to much worse things"
I though that he is going to be a psychopathic mass murderer...starting with the torture of small animals and children!
He is not a gentle soul by any means!

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fishie · 29/08/2008 10:15

snail squishing is a popular father and son pastime in my garden. i doubt it will lead to the silence of the lambs. teacher sounds well ott.

deanychip · 29/08/2008 10:17

Laughing my ass off....silence of the lambs that is hillarious!!! x

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combustiblelemon · 29/08/2008 10:28

Well I remember spending one summer holiday as a child seeking out ants to stamp on. I'm now such a wuss that even when slugs were coming into the kitchen I couldn't kill them. I threw them back outside and created a barrier of salt outside the doorway because I couldn't bring myself to salt them directly.

HonoriaGlossop · 29/08/2008 10:47

bet the teacher has never had a DS.

Snail squashing is in the GENES

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