Hello. I'm just looking for other parents experiences/perspectives of being in a similar situation, everything I have read so far has really been 50/50 on whether children have started hitting milestones later, or have been diagnosed with hearing/sight issues and even Autism/ADHD.
My 19 month old son has hit all of his physical milestones well, he's a good eater, finger feeds himself, always in 90+ percentile for height and weight, is walking confidently and not far off running.... but socially he is falling behind and is a constant source of worry.
He rarely looks when you call to him - and I dont think there is an issue with his hearing as he will turn round when it suits him - but for the most part if he isn't interested then he just won't no matter how persistent you are. His eye contact is getting better, but isn't always there either. He has never pointed/waved etc, though he is very good at hand leading, or looking towards what he wants (eg if he wants his water cup he'll look round at where it's been put down). Things he used to do like play peek-a-boo and clap have stopped now. When he is excited he will do alot of hand and leg flapping, or rocking from foot to foot. He doesn't say any words, but he does make alot of different noises and screeches.
He is very inquisitive and destructive with no sense of danger, we are forever chasing after him and rescuing things he shouldn't have, but otherwise if it is safe we do let him explore as much as he desires.
I find nursery quite upsetting as every month or so they have me sign a checklist saying that he's still not turning to his name being called ☹️.
We have seen our HV about these issues, and she has referred us to have sight and hearing checked, and to speech therapy, though says he's likely to be more around the age of 2 before we're called up for these appointments. In the meantime we do everything we can do, talk to him constantly, ask him about what he wants when he does hand lead, read books (though at the moment he's only interested in touchy books and will often put them in his mouth too if he gets a chance 🤦♀️) but feel very judged by people always pointing out how he doesn't like to make eye contact and things ☹️. He is our world and greatest love who seems quite content in his own way just exploring and destroying, but we do worry there is maybe something else going on.