Anxiety or autism 11 month old

[Suspiciouspenguin]

Hi all, i am a ftm of a beautiful 11 month old. I do have bad anxiety and my brother is autistic with severe learning difficulties and extremely violent so this is and has always been a real concern of mine. I am worried my son is autistic for a few reasons:

• he can only army crawl at 11 months. A physio checked him over and said they are happy with him and that him being sick after nursery for 6 weeks could have kept him back.
• he cannot pull to stand at 11 months
• he doesnt seem to "talk back" to us or imitate us making faces
• he at times can have fleeting eye contact, especially after naps
• he sometimes won't respond to his name at all
• he doesnt understand commands (I think he does understand no and come here)

He can:

• make good eye contact and is normally very smiley
• met all other milestones on time lime sitting
• waves and claps
• bear weight on his legs
• is fine being passed to strangers / is generally pretty chill but cries at the right time.

Does he sound like a neurotypical 11 month old? I feel like this is ruining my time with him and it doesn't help seeing friends younger children reach milestones he hasnt yet 😔

Have you got his 12 month check booked in yet with your HV @Suspiciouspenguin?

Does he never respond to his name, or sometimes he wont respond to his name and some of the time he will? Because they are two different things.

I think he sounds fine, you should speak to your health visitor who will hopefully put your mind at rest.

Honestly, reading your post, I think your anxiety may be making you focus on every little thing your son isn't doing whilst overlooking all the things he is doing. He sounds like a happy, engaged little boy, and you've already had reassurance from a physio. I know it's easier said than done but try not to compare him to other babies. They all develop at their own pace, and 11 months is still incredibly young.