Help! Very attention seeking 2.5yo gone back to daytime soiling......................................

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I have tried everything to discourage her from doing this, but since dd2 was born dd1 has gone back in toilet training. She is 2.5yo and has been clean and dry for 6mths. DD2 is 11wks.
I have tried making no issue of it.
Praise for going to the toilet.
Telling off for doing it.
Nothing seems to work.
Will she just stop in her own time?
Any experiences of this welcome.

Two words-new baby

She has done really well to be trained at 2.5.Go easy on her and retrain her when no 2 is a bit older

The thing is that she is doing it purely for attention. The other day she held on in the car (pull up on) for 20 mins (had been a long car journey btw 5hrs and no accidents). Since 22mths she has never weed in the swimming pool. Yesterday she stood on the side and was looking as if she was going to jump in and just weed instead I was stood right next to her. It is soooo frustrating.

My first was 2 when dd born and he went through a whole attention seeking phase.Its normal,after all you have been her world for 2.5 years and now there is a tiny usurper taking up your attention.Its very hard at first,I can laugh now about the time I ran upstairs for a wee,dashed down and found ds had covered dds head with an empty shoebox...I would recommend trying to get her involved-lots of praise for helping mummy,acknowledging the baby can be a bit of a pain"Oh look babys crying again he makes an awful noise doesn't he" in conspiratorial tones,books to be read when feeding baby.I also found c-beebies a godsend.Also if you have a chance some 1-1 each day,even if its bathing the eldest on their own while someone else takes over with baby.It is VERY tiring but it DOES improve.HTH.wRINKLY XX

Thanks wrinkly! I know its just a phase like everything LOL. I do try to involve her but she has no inclination to help even with lots of praise, although today has been a better day- no major tantrums or soiling, so hopefully she is getting used to the LO.