my 8 year old DDs behaviour is horrific. Recently been referred to cahms after no one listening to me for a few years but as we all know, it's a long wait. Daily behaviour is as follows:
Screaming
Swearing
Throwing things
Hitting out
Breaking things
Running in the road
Answering back
Yelling
Overall disrespectful, defiant behaviour. I've tried gentle parenting, done courses, removal of privileges, consequences for behaviour, rewards for good behaviour, ignore bad and praise good, shouting back etc
She doesn't care about why she's on time out etc and will keep getting off, shouting at me, throwing things at me and asking when can she come in, constantly repeating herself. I've been firm, calm and consistent and walk away after explaining but she screams and explodes that much, she's caught my other children and scared my toddler
I am struggling so much, in tears often. This weekend has been the worst I've ever had.
She fits the criteria of ODD, IED and ADHD but of course I'm no professional so can't say for sure which it is
Then it's causing problems with my OH (not bio dad)
He can't cope (depression and possible other undiagnosed problems) and takes it out on me so daily I have both of them screaming at each other and at me
None of them will back down or listen to reason either
Ant advice appreciated, please be kind x