My 4 year old is horrible to my 1 year old. He will push him, hit him, throw things at him. We have a calm down step or play calm down music but that doesn't seem to help.
So today I told him if he hurts his brother, he wouldn't get pudding after dinner. He then hurt him again. As result, he didn't get pudding. The whole family didn't get pudding either and I still offered him some grapes
Is this bad parenting? I feel really bad about it. Any tips?