Fucking child!!!!!!

[SoupKitchen]

Oh bugger, I have always been a bit of a swearer under my breath.
But have just overheard DD 3 mutterring fucking child to her dolly
I know this is my fault and my parenting, but how do I react.
So far I have ignored it but will this encourage it ifyswim.
And what if it happens in public.

Now need to seriously address my language

We say "blumming 'eck" - that's about as harsh as it gets.

We also don't say "shut up", "oh my god" (DD does say "oh my gosh" though) or stupid".

We say "blumming 'eck" - that's about as harsh as it gets.

We also don't say "shut up", "oh my god" (DD does say "oh my gosh" though) or stupid".

my son is unable to pronounce bogey, so refers to them as buggers, he now wanders around at nursery, offering to identify buggers.

well I have been known to shout the odd expletive when I've stubbed toe or similar,alwasy apologise profusely if dc's have heard.

I have had to get teenage dd to stop saying omg in front of 5 yr old ds as he was copying her.He now says "oh my word"...which sounds ridiculous coming from him

phew was worried this was going to be a thread about a child fucking.

This morning my 8 year old ds asked me what shed meant in English. I told him it was a little wooden house. He then asked when I always said "shed" when I dropped something or couldn't find the car keys.....

ggg!

My mother never swore and I curse like a navvy

I know I need to curb my swearing, and I don't swear directly at the DC, but I have been known to mutter said expletives t myself during a cooling off period. to prevent shouting at dc. I know "fucking child " isn't nice even to mutter( I thought I was out of earshot, but obviously wasn't) but sometimes I get to the end of my tether and lose it. I am working really hard on this and Behaviour is improving.

BTW do I ignore if it happens again or explain that it is a naughty word she mustn't say???

Thanks WiiMii, I appreciate the Advise

I swear quite a bit, nowhere near as bad as i used to though, but my DC's know swear words arent to come out of childrens mouths, if ds or dd say anythin i dont want them to i just say it's a swear word and they don't use it again.

I've known people to speak a lot worse to their children than I do without using swear words tbh, I think a lot of the time it's about tone not wording with DC's.

I'm going with the 'ignore it and it'll go away' method with ds who's 2.7 (he mutters 'Fuck it' and 'shit' under his breath when he's vexed with his toys
My dd 16 rarely swears even now and never did when she was little and I'm sure I used to swear like a trooper in my early 20s

I find a quiet word about how it is a grown up word and they shouldnt use it works well.
That is until my 8 year old comes home and tells me the meaning of bugger, bloody, fuck and shit. At that point, while trying not to laugh as they all sounded so funny out of a very prim and proper young lady, I explained that there are all kinds of words that are naughty but until you can use them in context of your sentance you shouldnt use them. That seemed to stop the conversation quickly.
I will say that luckily the definition of bugger definitly wasnt the same as the one I would have given.
I swear all the time it pisses me off.
Good luck with the potty mouth soupkitchen.

What does rile me a bit is some Mums whose every other word is a swear word, yet they will lay into their small children if they use the same words. I think you should try to model behaviour if you want it.

For me, I have explained that I don't like us to use swear words as a family, but that I realise it's easily done when they are used around us. So I have instituted a swear kitty; the offender to put 50 p in and the money to be used for the whole of the family. And guess who the only person is ever to have to put anything in the kitty

I do the same with careless use of the words God and Jesus, as we have many Christian friends, so this could easily offend. I have explained this.

sorry for laughing, i have had a similar thing with DD, with Piss off, a pretty inocuous swear word until it comes out of the mouth of a two year old! She started to do it in tantrum mode and has done it in a crowded resturant . I had to stuff my hand in my mouth the other day though to stop myself screeching with laughter as she was sitting playing with her trains,saying clear as anything to percy - nice as pie "now you piss off home and you can play again tomorrow" We are going to employ a swear box!

Just as an aside,
My dh's mate said he was stopped short at the swimming pool when his 2 year old son pointed at a woman and said: ''fucking troll!!''
The man was mortified (as he vaugely felt he might have conceivably described a person as a fucking troll'' in front of his child at some point but

It turned out the child was actually saying
''Fat Controller'' in a suitably tolddler way...and had said it becuae the woman was of a similar girth to the afore-mentioned Thomas character...

My DD once said "oh fuck, its raining " in a packed yet silent bank lobby. She was only four at the time and has an angel's face and is actually a very nice little girl
I was so mortified that I hissed at her
"paglet! what did you say ?!!"
which was truly brilliant as she imediately said
" mummy I said oh fuck its raining".
My mother then leapt in to save me () by saying
" goodness. That isn't a very nice word to hear from a young lady - where did you hear such a thing ? "
to which DD pointed happily at me [shame]

my shame was complete.

In truth I very rarely swear in front of the children as DS2 is echolaic but it seems 'rarely' doesn't help!