Hi all,
I have an 11 year old son and known that he was different since being young. Primary school put a referral in for me for an ADHD/ autism referral after me asking them to and pointing out the issues we have a lot home. He had a lot of school refusal last year and he struggles to concentrate, they weren’t entirely convinced about putting the referral in but did as he masks in school.
Since then, we’ve had lots of health issues, he’s had chronic constipation since being a toddler and was diagnosed with ARFID this year. It’s only the last few months that some of the peadiatricians we’ve seen have asked me whether I’ve considered wether he may have autism as they’ve obviously recognised certain things about him and it sounds awful but this made me feel relieved that it wasn’t just me imagining these things as even family members are not convinced, they think he’s doing alot of things because he’s misbehaving, such as tantrums etc.
He’s just started high school and I feel
lile things are escalating there, he’s always in trouble for not doing his work and fidgeting, not paying attention, being late to class etc. We’ve just had an EHA approved but got the confidence from somewhere after reading lots online to apply for an ECHP. So the council are currently looking into it and I’ve just had a meeting with school, they have limited information and have told me that it will more than likely be refused. Fair enough, I know they’re really hard to get. But she also told me she’d be surprised if he got a diagnosis of ASD/ADHD too as there’s nothing sufficient to show he has that. I was a bit taken aback and feel really silly and deflated. Has anyone ever got to the point of the tests and actually found out that in fact their child doesn’t have ASD? She hinted at behavioural problems as my partner does. Could it be that instead?
Sorry if this is hard to understand, starting to wonder if I’m looking for problems that aren’t there.