Super nanny?

[dingledanglestrawman]

Has anybody used somebody like this? We are desperate, or at least I am. I don't want somebody to stifle dd's curiosity, creativity, kindness and spirit. But we need to undo years of weak parenting, especially in some areas, and I truly believe she would also be happier with more reliable boundaries and less wavering between ignoring and shouting.

Have you used a "super nanny"?
What questions should I ask?
Would you do anything differently?
Would you recommend the person you used?

Thank you in advance.

PS NC'd for this

[scarecrow22]

Bumping myself. (A variation on slapping my forehead for letting things get this bad.)
Thanks again

[CadyEastman]

Have you had a bit of a name change daily there @scarecrow22?

I've not used one but I'd try asking if they have DC. So many of the "Baby/Child Gurus" have never actually had their own child.

I'd also ask of their methods are evidence based.

If you want to tell us a bit more about your DD we might be able to point you to some resources

[takemeawayagain]

It sounds like you know exactly what the problems are so why don't you just put in the boundaries yourselves? Just be calm, clear and consistent and she'll soon learn.