think i'm doing sumthing wrong ?

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When i was younger we had a family friend with 6 kids,and i used to dread them coming over as they were like 6 tazmianian devils! Their mother would just let them get on with it and i used to think O M G "i'm so not gona let that happen " Now 10yrs later i have 4 children a 16 sd, 6 yr old ds, 2 yr old dd and a 1 yr old ds .Have been to my mothers today and she has made sevril coments about my children and how "LIVELY" they are and how like "X" i am just because my 2yr old dd is so bossey and is very loud and pushes her younger brother about alot and you have to watch her constantly .fi last week she took from coming down stairs to me fetching thier cearal in {a total of 2 mins max } to draw all over the side board .doors draws knobs and top !!!! But the youngest is starting to copy her so its so double trouble ive tried the stairs thing the puttin to bed thing but now she knows im gettin worn down an has started to be "spitfull" with it.She will do things and laugh at me wen im telling her off .good im so upset that im rambling and sobbing wat can i do please help !!!!!!!

Toddlers! Who'd have them? Don't be too down because tomorrow is another day and exhausting and frustrating though she is, you are the one in charge. You need to have clear boundaries and a sanction that works together with rewards of your attention for good behaviour.
Can your dh pull together with you on this one? Read 'toddler taming' as it's funny and sound but not trendy now.
I have four so I know how difficult it is to give them individual attention, but is it possible for you to spend even a little time with her on her own? Ask your Mum to help and say you don't want to become like 'x' and you need her help.
Of course all the others need time too so dh will have to chip in. How do the little ones get on with sd? Can you get her on your side because it can't be fun for her if the others are fighting.
You'll get through it. We all want to sell the children from time to time.

thanks wre can i get a copy from whos the auther?

Toddler taming - Christopher Green - I'd also recommend

Poor you! Sounds like you have your hands full! We all have those days though, it's not just you! Brill advice from SWP above - Good luck!