My twin girls are really testing my husband and I.
One is highly sensitive / deeply feeling kid with big emotions and massive massive violent meltdowns. Have previously seen a child physiologist who suggested this but also offered an ADHD assessment due to her fidgeting so much during sessions. She has never fidgeted before so we agreed it probably was fine and school never been an issue. In addition to this she has low self esteem and ocd like tendencies over using the car as she travels from motion sickness.
Her sister is very anxious, very impatient and very loud and shouty.
They are both triggering each other.
My husband and I are completely drained our marriage has suffered although we are back on track with that and tag teaming. Believe we are not getting it right all the time but we are trying to be fair, listening, taking them seriously and showing love constantly, giving them our time. Etc etc
We are extremely comfortable to avoid waiting lists and pay for additional help but what help? The first twin I mentioned refuses to go and speak to anyone else and to be honest I think with her self esteem taking her to people just makes her feel bad and she's a problem we need to fix.
Just at a loss! Thank you if you're gotten this far to the end of the post.