Mt dd2 has just discovered she has a "wobbly bit in her front bottom"?!?!?!

[auntieem]

My dd2 age 3.5years has just had a wee and come to tell me she has a "wobbly bit in her front bottom". On inspection she has found her clitoris - oh joy! She does have rather a pronounced clitoris and labia minora . Anyone any suggestions as to how I explain this to her? She knows babies come out the front bottom but has skipped off happily saying she has a willy!! This is something I would rather curtail (figuratively obviously). Any ideas for the discussion at bathtime gratefully received

i'd just tell her that she's very lucky to have such a nice one and all ladies have them, including you. not sure why you need to curtail it, really. is she masturbating, do you think? it's very common as i understand it.

No not masturbating. I only want to curtail the idea that she has a willy!

tell her it's a clitoris? and all ladies have them and they're a great friend in times of stress? like a kitten, but handier?

Just tell her what it is - a clitoris. All women have one.

My Mum was a Freudian analyst. Freud beleived all little girls have penis envy. When I was 3 I was running round the garden and said that I wanted to pee standing up. One of Mum's older, male psychanalytic colleagues raised his eyebrows knowingly and said to me "do you wish you had a willy so you could pee like a boy". I replied "don't be silly, why would I want a willy when I have a clitoris and a vagina" . There go Freud's theories.

rofl

I wish i could even find mine.

bless your dd.

lol, bless her.

artichokes I like your penis non-envy story

you've mislaid your clitoris?
it'll be in the lining of your handbag, nothing surer...

I have told her "wobbly bit" is normal and that all ladies and girls have one.
It would be a crime to mislay one's clitoris - how would I use my Ann Summer's bullet without it

lol at Aitch

Only a 3 year old would be wobblier at the front of her bottom.

Tell her its a good job she found it as no man ever will with out written directions

I only have boys so no advice sorry

i've got some advice for you, Kimi... tell those boys where a lady's clitoris is. once they're 21, of course.

LOL so leaving a copy of playboy with a big red arrow is a no no then Aitch.

not unless they're playing cowboys and indians...

apparently playboy has some excellent and thought-provoking articles.

And there was me thinking it was just plain old smutt!

DSs are not allowed to even think about sex till they are 30

I don't think she's far wrong.. am I right in thinking that, when all embryos start off "female" (I know I'm right in that), that the clitoris is where the penis grows from in the embryos that begin converting to male?

So you could say to her.. "well.. that's where your willy would have been if you had been a boy.."

Artichokes, I was a nanny a few years back, and I once bunged the elder of the two little girls in the bath with a little boy playmate. She stared in amazed horror at his penis, then said in the most comforting voice she could manage, "never mind, it could have been on your face!"

Penis envy could only have been dreamed up by a man.