I'm just curious what other people are doing?
I'm trying to be gentle... not always achieving it, focusing on repairing when I flip my lid.
It feels like a very long game ..
We tried reward charts once but then the negotiations got out of hand, he was asking for a reward for doing basic stuff and I felt we needed to get him more intrinsically motivated.
He's pretty highly strung. He's got a lot of strengths, he's bright and sweet and energetic but he's also really defiant. We have so many power struggles and recently it feels like his default setting is 'angry'. There's nothing new or bad going on in the family or anything, we're lucky in that regard. I don't really know what's normal for a 4.5 year old!
Can anyone offer anything ?!