8 year old won’t sleep until I’m in bed

[Lavenderfowl]

I don’t know how he does it, but he’ll keep himself awake until I’m ready to go to bed…he’s getting very tired and there are only so many nights I can be in bed by eight!!

anyone else had this, and ideas how to stop
it? For context me and ex separated a couple of years back, and this started about 18 months ago…

What's he worried about? Has he been able to tell you why he's staying awake?

I'm assuming that you've done all of the usual stuff like exercising him to the point of exhaustion and no screens after tea?

We could definitely do more of the first thing,..but he’s not sporty so it’s a bit of a challenge…the screens after tea I definitely try and keep a lid on. He just says he can’t get to sleep, it’s like he’s wired so maybe I need to do no screen time after school.,.which seems a bit draconian.

If he’s in my bed he’ll cuddle down more quickly, but that destroys my rest so I go with it some times but not all the time .

If he won't do sports how about taking him swimming with a friend or going for a walk?