Really worried

[Crazymumto1]

This is my first thread so please bear with me, I have been a long time lurker, I had one Ds who has started an independent pre school. Yesterday we were told they had some concerns about autistic traits he has. We were told he doesn’t speak there to them and say what he wants but he does at home.
He will tell us what he wants at home such as “daddy get juice”, he asks for playdoh, crayons, colours etc. When we are at home he will tell us he wants fish or pizza or chocolate or ice cream etc. They are saying he doesn’t look at them or respond to his name however at home he does, he will give really good eye contact never not give it.
He does sometimes ignore us if he wants. I am really worrying has anyone had experience of this and if so what did you do?

Does he speak at all at nursery? How old is he?

Could it be selective mutism?

He does speak at times and he is still very upset at being away from me and his dad, he will say phrases and some words, but won’t say his wants and needs, she said his repetitive behaviours have now stopped and he is exploring more, he is joining in on the carpet and activities just not talking much, he did name fruits and he asks for us both and when they ask him things he’ll ignore them but he will understand what’s being said

After drama he went to the door and asked for mum and dad and was comforted and told we would pick him up later

He’s three years two months