stupid question I know but should a 12month old baby sleep through all night [blush]

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my ds2 doesnt and I worry he needs the feeds in the night (min up X 2 max X 3)

I am sure his weight is normal and that probably he is just snacking on me as a habit now

Is it kinder to end this snacking now and let him learn to sleep all night or will he stop himself as I dont want to be feeding him / settling him for years if atall possible.......

how is best to do this do you think?

gentle advice please xx

thanks

my ds breastfed til 13mths, slept thru from 8 and half months, after i had enough of night feeding. 3 nights of a little grumpiness on his part but otherwise kept his naps to a min in the day so he was wrecked by night and it seemed to work out for me. I had dd too who played with im and i suppose that helped in the general "routine" of things,
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kitbit - I said "If it works for you, great.". You replied "Does it really matter though? Actually it sounds as though my child not sleeping through matters more to you than it does to me.".

No, actually, it really sounds as though your permanent lack of sleep is playing with your mind. I couldn't care less when, or if ever, you get to have a full night's sleep.

My point was that you might be happy with a 3 year old not sleeping through but neither OP, nor anyone else who starts a thread asking for help on getting their kid to sleep through is obviously not happy with their status quo.

Should be sleeping or can he sleep through are 2 different questions.
Yes he is capable. If he is eating 3 meals per day and snacks and drinking plenty then he certainly doesn't need the calories of milk (and it is probably interfering with his appetite during the day. 3-4 tough nights of whinging will probably kick the habit. I would be inclined to give a bottle of expressed milk if he wakes at first to break the link of breast comfort. Then move on to water. He may loose interest, reduce the amount of water to an oz per waking max, then sips and settle off, then nothing. This over the space of a couple of weeks.

My dd slept 7pm til 7am from 3mths However, she was bottle fed from 8wks.

Should be sleeping or can he sleep through are 2 different questions.
Yes he is capable. If he is eating 3 meals per day and snacks and drinking plenty then he certainly doesn't need the calories of milk (and it is probably interfering with his appetite during the day. 3-4 tough nights of whinging will probably kick the habit. I would be inclined to give a bottle of expressed milk if he wakes at first to break the link of breast comfort. Then move on to water. He may loose interest, reduce the amount of water to an oz per waking max, then sips and settle off, then nothing. This over the space of a couple of weeks.

My dd slept 7pm til 7am from 3mths However, she was bottle fed from 8wks.

Sorry, haven't read all the other posts, two tired. My dd has had awful sleep problems and at 20 months is only now just really sleeping through. She often woke a couple of times a night and I found that the quickest was to get back into bed was to give her the comfort she needed which was a couple of ounces of milk from a bottle. That is not to say I didn't try LOADS of other things and posted on here a few times too.

I did feel guitly about giving her milk int he night, I knew she didn't NEED it and everyone told me I was mad, that she would still be doing it at 5. However, I tried so many things but once I relaxed about it, thought that she would just do it in her own time and accepted that I might be up with her once or twice a night then I realised that a 10 minute comfort stop in the middle of the night wasn't a dreadful thing (it had got down to once by about 14 months). Last night she slept from 6.30 to 7.30 and believe me, if someone had told me 3 months ago that would happen I wouldn't believe them.

Not sure what my point is. I think it is that every baby is different and everyone will tell you to stop now because you will create bad habits but just wanted to say that sometimes, they do just stop on their own when they are ready.

Good luck, xx

I think the OP actually asked if a 12 month old should be sleeping through the night, not specifically for help in achieving it, CoteDAzur. Apologies to other posters for hijack conversation in the middle of this thread!

helloooo all , golly I didnt realise this thread had grown so much!

here is our sleep update....

ds2 is doing better last night did 9-5ish but thats with a big sleep 2ish till 4 ish and a big sleep in the am 8ish - 10ish

i think this would be his ideal sleep patterns

unfort its right in the nursery run times thorugh the week so he tends to do on school days 8ish till 10ish then back of one till just before 3 and then he cant last till bedtime so he tends to have a kip 5ish which means he doesnt go to bed till 10ish but on the whole ds2 is doing much better

I have not been able to let him cry in the night but the earliest he has woken is 4 am so I just pull him in, feed him and snooze

so thats it really from our household for now, but i do feel we have turned a corner thankfully and Idont feel quite so brain dead

thanks for all advice/kind words!

Glad things are getting better! As I said in my rather long winded post, DD's sleeping got much better around 18 months and nothing I did or didn't do really had any effect. I hope things continue to get better and don't listen to anyone who tells you what your DS SHOULD be doing. They are all different. x