Hey all
Just need a bit of advice please? Or information!
So there have been some issues with my sons development / behaviours for some while now. Since he was about 2 years old. Each setting he has been too thinks that he has some special needs (first nursery thought he may be autistic, but that was 2 years ago), i have never known if his behaviours where those of just any normal child, as up until 3 months ago he was an only child and I have no others to compare him with.
So, more recently his behaviours have became more noticeable
I’m just going to bullet point his behaviours as follows:
- He believes certain toys belong to him and him only at pre school, even when he walks away from them he can’t cope when another child plays with them and has a melt down, and vice versa, he won’t play with some items because he believes they are another child’s.
- When he gets distressed he takes his clothes off, and has started pulling his trousers down when he’s angry and sometimes he will just take off his shoes.
- When there’s a big crowd or loud noises he will become upset and seek out a familiar adult or just scream and have a melt down.
- He puts his fingers in his ears or pushes his ears with his palms at loud noises e.g music, lawn mower, hair dryer.
- He struggles with eating habits and is very particular about what he will and won’t eat.
- He struggles with change of routine and at pre school they use timers etc to change task as he becomes distraught otherwise.
- He has speech issues, although I can understand him perfectly fine, others struggle.
- He wakes up several times a night and doesn’t need much sleep.
- He gets distressed extremely easily, and the most simple thing becomes very upsetting for him.
- He becomes very obsessed with things like games on iPads etc so I have had to limit any use.
- He struggles with not knowing what will be happening next.
I’m just baffled really, I have no experience with child SEN and I’m wondering if any other parents out there have any advice for me, does this sound like autism or something else?
At this time I’m not sure what it is that is causing these behaviours, but I will be there for him no matter what to support him through as he’s clearly struggling in some aspects, I just don’t know if these behaviours are usual for a child this age or if he does next extra support, if so, what would be my next step?
He has been referred to pre school forum about his behaviours - I have received an email to state that the meeting will take place (the date was last week), anyone know what will happen next? Or if I’ll hear back? He also has been referred to speech and language.
Sorry about the huge post! Just a confused momma looking for some support x
TIA xx