I need help.... real big help!
My 5 year old is ruling the house big time. Her behaviour is so aggressive at home with us, she has daily meltdowns, which result in 30 mins upto 2 hours of high pitch screaming, spitting, swearing, punching, kicking, and being downright horrid. (No one swears or acts this way in front of her so it's not learnt behaviour)
When she's calmed down she's horrified by her behaviour and says it's not me it was the wrong child. Then calls herself dumb ugly stupid hateful, it makes me so so sad 😞
Triggers being small things, for example yesterday I said no TV after dinner as wanted to get them ready for bed as we had a new story book they were looking forward to. Today was because I asked her to tidy away all the plaster wrappers she'd left over the floor.
We've tried every bribe going, raised voices, reward charts, pocket money, threat of telling teachers, loss of screen time etc, (don't belive in smacking at all)
We are a family of 5 and we are always having fun day trips, adventure walks, garden fun etc so she's not bored, she's so so loved and we are the best of friends when she's not playing up
In school she's an absolute treasure and a real teachers helper, no concerns there at all.
Her step sister has adhd (she's 23 I didn't know her when young so can't compare) her brother is also autistic with no behaviour issues.
Do you think this is just normal and pushing her luck? Or something I should be getting looked into further?
I keep thinking she'll grow out of it since terrible twos but it's still here getting worse each day!
Sorry its so long but I really need help I'm so sad 😞