Giving a 2 year old a daily choc button as a reward for good behaviour

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I have started giving ds (2.3) a single chocolate button at the end of the day when daddy gets home if he is a good boy all day.

It seems to really work as e.g. when we went for our walk today and he started messing around (as he has started doing recently - trying to sit down on the ground etc when we are walking) I just said 'oh remember what I said about having to be sensible to get your choc button' and lo and behold every time he slipped back into it, he stopped and was then really good all day.

So I'm using it as a bit of a threat 'stop x or you won't get your button'.

I'm sure I've seen somewhere that you shouldn't really use food as a reward but this is just one little chocolate button so does that matter if it is working so well?

Generally he is a very good eater of fruit and veg and would pass over chocolate for fruit a lot of the time, so I don't have any concerns there but maybe there is a drawback something I haven't considered?

aviatrix. It was a pleasant throw away comment, to mean that I don't think she's going to completely f up her child by giving a choc button once a day atm.

Whilst I'm here 'spose I better spell it out that it was also a little bit tongue in cheek. We all do things that aren't quite perfect or by the book but both parent and child will have survived it 18 years later.

And I wish you'd all stop talking about wine, I really want some now

Blueblob, sure, we all do things that aren't perfect and survive - but the OP was specifically asking for our opinions on this particular method of discipline and any drawbacks that it could have. Saying "oh well it won't kill them" seems to me to be rather unhelpful and missing the point. Give the OP some credit for thinking carefully about the way she deals with conflict and behaviour, not just following some kneejerk accepted methods without any depth of thought for the consequences.

That one comment was a little bit of opening pleasant chat. With a slight sprinkle of humour. The rest of my reply you'll find after that one comment further down the thread.