Ds (3) puts night time nappy in bin, helps make drink, helps self to snack, will put dirty laundry in bin, and also rubbish in bin and recycling in recycle bin. He gets himself dressed as much as he can, and sometimes helps cook. He sometimes washes the shower/bath too. He doesn't tidy his toys, much.
Both dp and I come from homes where our mums did everything. I remember, as a child, thinking it was awful that my friend had to wash up. But now, of course, I think it's a really good thing. The problem is that, probably because of our upbringings, dp and I are hopeless at keeping tidy and organised at home. Our house is usually a tip, we are almost always behind with the washing/washing up/hoovering/cleaning. So it's become this intellectualised - rather than automatic - thing, whereby we've tried rotas, systemising it, etc, and still we haven't cracked it. We tend to end up thinking, "Sh*t!" and have a BIG, all-in-one-go tidy. And then friends come over and exclaim, "God, you're tidy!" and seem uncomfortable without our signature mess .
So, as much as we'd love ds to tidy his toys at the end of every day and make his bed, with us as an example, it doesn't really happen. Although he's still very little and there's hope ...
So, never mind how to get kids to do chores, how do untrained grown-ups get the hang of it?! Also, I'm intrigued about how some make their children, especially little ones, do chores.