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3rd year teacher ripping up my dd's school work.

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rainbow71 · 14/09/2007 12:45

Several parents at my daughters school have told me that my dd had her work ripped out of her book because she made a mistake in the lay-out requested by her teacher. My dd very upset as she worked hard on this. Having talked to her teacher I was told this was to improve standards and concentration my dd is 7 yrs old. Does anyone else feel this is harsh. My dd cried herself to sleep and does not want to go to school now as scared of making a mistake. This has happened twice now, 2 pages ripped up. .

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moopymoo · 18/09/2007 20:34

my ds had this done on a couple of occasions last year. (he was 8 at the time)He was very upset and i complained to teacher and head, who, unfortunately, defended this as common practice in this school. We nearly removed him as we felt unable to do much, but he is otherwise very happy there. this is at a fee paying school who 'pride' themselves on a 'traditional education.' The school has many strengths but some stuff leaves me no perfect school or perfect teachers just find what fits the best imo. a little waffly...sorry

Twiglett · 19/09/2007 11:30

oh please tell me she's going to come back and update this

contentiouscat · 19/09/2007 11:44

I would write a letter to her and the head teacher pointing out that this is not acceptable, that your child was distraught and if it happens again you will be discussing it with ofstead. Some children do struggle to learn this could completely trauamise them if it happened on a regular basis.

Sounds like the kind of misguided "teaching" they did in the 60s.

NormaStanleyFletchaaaaarrrrr · 19/09/2007 11:47

HonoriaGlossop · 19/09/2007 12:13

Twiglett · 20/09/2007 13:13

HonoriaGlossop · 20/09/2007 17:44

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rainbow71 · 21/09/2007 10:00

Hello, Sorry I took so long to reply. I talked to the headmistress Monday lunchtime. Explained how disturbed I am by this policy and that I found it dificult to understand how humiliating and traumatising a child in front of their peers could possibly teach them respect, concentration, build confidence etc. Headmistress agreed 100% saild she new it had happened in the past but did not agree to it and would talk to the teacher concerned and apologised repeatedly for the upset it caused my dd. said she new it was wrong and would not happen again and would not even attempt to justify or back the teacher up. She even kept asking if I would like to take it further in which case she would understand as she would also be upset if it was her child.

My DD's teacher then asked for another meeting through her school book on Tues and has explained the changes made to ensure this does not happen again and to help to ensure my dd understands what she is being asked to do and given the proper help when reqd. Apologised in a round about way. Will wait and see as dd in her class for 2 yrs.

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rainbow71 · 21/09/2007 10:02

thank you 1 and all as your responses gave me the confidence to talk to the head knowing you were all behind me. What a great site. thanks again.

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Hulababy · 21/09/2007 10:03

Glad you got somewhere ad pleased that the Head did agree with you too.

I hope this teacher now changes her ways.

NormaStanleyFletcher · 21/09/2007 10:10

Well done Rainbow!

I am sure you did the right thing

Jackstini · 21/09/2007 10:24

Glad the head backed you up Rainbow, well done for bringing it up. Hope your dd is happier and be proud you have likely saved her classmates from having this ridiculous ounishment too

Twiglett · 21/09/2007 10:45

oh well done .. I hope you have explained this to DD and she gets her confidence back

HonoriaGlossop · 21/09/2007 11:18

WELL DONE rainbow! It is hard to stick your neck out but you so did the right thing here; the teacher has been pulled up on it and things will now change. The head sounds satisfyingly sorry, even if the teacher didn't manage to!

Frizbe · 21/09/2007 16:22

glad to hear this went well too, hurrah for change, lets hope there's no slipping back to the old ways....

chestnutter · 21/09/2007 16:43

Unbelievable behaviour but very glad that you've hopefully changed things for your dd and for future pupils. Good on you rainbow71. I mean, apart from all the other points people have made which I entirely agree with (I would have absolutely gone stratospheric tbh), what would the teacher have done if your dd had ripped up pages in one of the other pupil's books?! NOT been happy I'm sure but that's the example she would have set. It's totally unacceptable.

bossybritches · 22/09/2007 19:12

Good for you Rainbow- for all you know the Head could be on the case already & keeping an eye on this teacher Flagging up a problem like this is actually helpful in giving her an idea of what's going on at the coal-face. You'd like to think they'd know their staff inside & out but it's not always possible to be 100% aware as a boss of what the workers are up to ALL the time!

Teachers like that give the others a bad name- makes you wonder why they go into teaching with that attitude.

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