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3rd year teacher ripping up my dd's school work.

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rainbow71 · 14/09/2007 12:45

Several parents at my daughters school have told me that my dd had her work ripped out of her book because she made a mistake in the lay-out requested by her teacher. My dd very upset as she worked hard on this. Having talked to her teacher I was told this was to improve standards and concentration my dd is 7 yrs old. Does anyone else feel this is harsh. My dd cried herself to sleep and does not want to go to school now as scared of making a mistake. This has happened twice now, 2 pages ripped up. .

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bookwormtailmum · 14/09/2007 15:01

I'd absolutely raging - like many others I was unfairly 'dissed' at primary school by teachers on occasions and to this day I can remember the hurt I felt and bewildered as I tried to figure out what went wrong. It ook me 27 years to forgive one teacher for constantly sending me down to Remedial reading at 6 when I had a reading age of 8 (attested by independent experts) despite my mum's protests for the best part of an academic year. This was in 1977/8 so parental rights of appeal were fairly limited .

Complain to the HT and also ring your council and ask to speak to the education officer about this.

ejt1764 · 14/09/2007 15:14

I am a teacher (secondary not primary), and I would be astounded if this was school policy ... I have occasionally ripped pages out of children's books, but that has been with the child's understanding (and usually a desire from them to redo a piece of work that has not been done well for whatever reason). It's abhorrent to rip out a child's work if they have not reached some spurious standard of work - children need to understand why a piece of work has not come up the required standard!

If you don't get a reasonable response from the Head, then I'd suggest putting a formal complaint to the Governing Body first before you do anything else ... OFSTED has very little to do with the day to day running of schools, and would probably suggest you do this anyway!

ladymac · 14/09/2007 16:06

Yes, agree with ejt, if the head stands behind the teacher then next move is to contact chair of governing body. You can copy letter to your education authority too.

PondusLector · 14/09/2007 16:11

I am also a teacher (primary) and I think this is appalling. Your poor dd. I would lay money that this did not happen in front of an inspection team.

It is such a shame that some teachers don't realise that children learn through a sense of empowerment, not humiliation. They should ask themselves how much they can learn when all their available mindspace is being taken up by feeling bad. Horrible woman. I hope your dd is feeling better.

Jackstini · 14/09/2007 16:11

Let us know how you got on Rainbow
I would be absolutely fuming - what a stupid thing to do to a child. Sounds like that teacher has anger management issues.

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rainbow71 · 14/09/2007 16:51

Hello, Well I picked my dd up from school but unfortunately could not see the headmistress as did not want to take them with me to see the headmistress and discuss school policies as felt it could be upsetting me daughter more. My dh will be coming with me next Tuesday to pick kids up and I will then see the head while dh takes the children home. My dd came out of school beaming today though as it appears the teacher in question has been praising her work, telling her how good her work has been today along with her concentration and has given her happy/work points. I get the feeling she's trying to make up for it and obviously doesn't want me to take it further. Possibly concerned that she will be caught out making up the ripping out and screwing up work policy.

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madamez · 14/09/2007 16:57

SOunds like you've got the bitch on the run, jolly good. But do speak to the head anyway so the wretched teacher doesn't keep on doing it to other kids and if (which I doubt very much will happen) the head says, oh it IS school policy to destroy the children's work then, well, if it were me, my children would be out of that school like a shot.

janeitebus · 14/09/2007 17:35

Yes the teacher sounds like she is trying to make up for past behaviour.

I'm a teacher (secondary English) and am horrified if this actually IS school policy -it seems like a sure-fire way to stifle any attempt at creativity/pushing the boundaries of language to me. I picture a class of pupils only using the words that they know how to spell, and only using layout/language conventions that they know, for fear of getting told off and humiliated if they experiment and make a mistake. Shocking.

Lorayn · 14/09/2007 17:48

MY GOSH, (The nicest words I could come up with)
How dare she, I suggest once you have gone to the meeting with the head you explain how bloody riled the whole of MN are about it and that you are tempted to take it to the press!!!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Christie · 14/09/2007 18:01

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McDreamy · 14/09/2007 18:02

awwww your poor poor daughter. I would be so

hercules1 · 14/09/2007 18:14

Blimey. I am a teacher too

minouminou · 15/09/2007 14:18

I remember a teacher removing a messed-up piece of work from my book - WITH my consent, and very carefully, with the help of a ruler (you know, using the ruler to make sure the edges were straight). It was done in a "oh dear, that was a bit of a pig's ear, let's forget it, eh?" kinda way.
That's the only way removing pages should be done, so i think you should really see this through - other parents commenting is a sure sign you're not overprotective or over-reacting.
Shame on her for this, really.

Toe · 15/09/2007 14:44

School policy? Ask to see where that particular policy is written. I am a teacher too, there are times when I really struggle to keep my temper but, it's what we're paid for and a teacher who truly had the children's best interests at heart would be able to admit to making a mistake and apologise for overreacting rather than inventing policies and belittling the parents.

Jackstini · 16/09/2007 21:26

Will be looking out for your Tuesday update - am very intrigued as to what the head will say.....

moljam · 16/09/2007 21:30

your poor dd!my dd is year 3 too and would be devestated-what a horrible thing to do hope goes ok with head.

sleepfinder · 16/09/2007 22:16

Its completely unacceptable for a teacher to physically destroy the work of your child. Its agressive, violent and disrespectful - its also frightening and upsetting for the child. I hope you get this sorted out and it should never happen again. I'm so sorry to hear that it did...

bamamama · 17/09/2007 03:08

totally by this - don't lose your anger before Tuesday and decide to let it go! My bil had a situation with his ds and a teacher which eventually led to them moving schools. Not wanting to leave on a bad note (although I'm not sure why) my nephew took a goodbye card to the teacher. She ripped it up in front of him! He was about 8 yo.That teacher is still working away as if nothing has happened and I'm still every time I think of it. Don't let her get away with it!

Jackstini · 18/09/2007 09:58

Bamamama - OMG & - how dare a teacher of all people think they have the right to do that.
Hope bil kicked up a massive stink and that your little nephew is happy in his new school

HonoriaGlossop · 18/09/2007 18:10

Wonder how it went Rainbow?? Any update?

Twiglett · 18/09/2007 18:12

oh yes, me too .. any update?

Jennifer8 · 18/09/2007 18:18

Yup it isn't discipline, it's bullying. I had a teacher repeatedly get me to draw something for her to go on the front of a leaflet or something. I did it as she specified, 4 times, each time was told it was rubbish and I had to do it again. She was a class A bitch who eventually got the sack. This is going back about 25 years, I had no idea this still happened

Great that you are sticking up for DD
Good luck and God speed!

collision · 18/09/2007 18:25

????

I am appalled at this and would go ballistic if a teacher did this to ds!!

Lakelover · 18/09/2007 20:25

My mum was a teacher for 30 years and would never have DREAMED of ripping up a child's work - the negative implications of this are enormous!! This is appalling behaviour. What a callous woman - who is meant to be a role model for these children! Shocked and horrified by this post. Please let us know what the outcome is. Very sad for your DD and you xx

DottyDot · 18/09/2007 20:26

OMG - just seen this. That's outrageous - completely wrong and the teacher should get a bollocking.

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