dd is really distraught at school drop off, any ideas?

[hermykne]

this morning it was wailing as i left the building, she was pulling me and saying another hug, no not that one another one, another kiss, no one more - it was awful.

so i just pulled my self away and left with ds in my arms who then started wailing that i didnt hug her again.

so any ideas
this is week 2 , shes 5 next mthh, and shes done 20mths of montesorri prior to primary.

but she is unbelieveably clingy, what can i do,
i have done the chats at bedtime and at brekkie and shes all talk "big girl" but then crumbles in the classroom

teacher says 2mins later shes fine

bumo

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Do you get to school early? Sometimes this could help as it will give her time to make a few friends. Is there a little friend that she might be a bit closer to than the rest that she could walk to school with or hold hands and walk in with?
It's all a big, scary new world to them when they start school but they do get there in the end. Stick with it!

Another thing you could try perhaps: I note you said you had DS in your arms when you said goodbye. Maybe try a morning taking her to school on your own? Just a thought.

lol at bumo

Does she have any friends there? Can you bang on about how great her friends are?

If my dd is a little worried about things I leave a kiss soldier in her pocker (a kiss which turns into a soldier!) - from the book Cassie and the kiss soldier

Mainly with school though I am bigging up her friends - saying "oooh you are going to see so and so today, how exciting!" and if we see her friends on the walk to school then walking with them so they can go in together.

My dd was like this. In the end I just used to leave - then sit on the wall outside until they rang to say she was happy. Usually took about 3 minutes! She tells me now (she's 11) that she really hated the saying goodbye - and wanted to put off the actual moment, but once it was over she had a lovely time!

Oh, and we had a pretend mouse called Christina who was her imaginary friend and who lived in her pocket. Christina was very good at helping her to be brave!

I feel for you I've been there myself. Its true what the teacher says though, I bet she's fine 2 minutes later and its you that suffers all day worrying. I had to physically put my dd's hand into the teachers hand otherwise she made a run for the door! It was the most dreadful 2 weeks of my life. BUT it was only 2 weeks. Stick with it, you're doing all the right things, it will get easier, I promise.

Can the teacher give her a special job to do when she goes in - watering a plant or something?

I know how upsetting this is for you as I went through it and had pitying glances from other mums. There will be other children who go through spells like this at other times, once the reality sets in.

Failing that, bribery or a star chart for a reward at the end of the week, or a special sticker from the teacher for each good day. With my DS2 it started up again after each weekend and holiday (not to alarm you but to warn you to expect it!).

A special job is a good idea. My dd1's friend used to sit on the teacher's desk and announce each new arrival.

the socialist - i have that book - thanks for idea

and sherbet the job idea is good too, i noticed the milk cartoons ofr their lunch so even organising that
thats for al the ideas

My ds rebelled after 5 weeks - so the pitying glances that I gave were then turned on me!