2 year old violence

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Hi - my 2.5 year old sons behaviour is really starting to upset me, he gets into a rage about something like wanting cake/chocolate/the blue spoon and will hit, bite and scratch me and it's very hard to stop him, he doesn't seem to have any empathy or reaction if he hurts me. I do all the things I have read about like remove him to a quiet place, tried to explain why he shouldn't do it but there's no way I can get him to stay on a naughty step or anything without using quite a lot of force. My mum says I should smack him but I really don't want to go down that route. He can also be violent with other children if they take a toy he considers to be his. He's an angel at nursery thought apparently!

It's really getting me down and I dread play dates! I have a 3 month old as well but he's very sweet with her, I worry it will change when she gets old enough to take his toys though....

Any advice or reassurance that he's not a psychopath Would be hugely appreciated!

Thanks