My 9 year old started acting up at school and home around a week and a half ago. When she was little, she was the queen of tantrums, silence, 9-yard stare (which genuinely scares the shit out of people and which she gets from her father), moving into wailing and throwing herself on the floor. She used to do naked protests too - shedding her clothes behind her. That behaviour stopped - a bit late, maybe 4...but this past couple of weeks we’ve been having major tantrums again. Staring into space, refusing to talk to anyone or do anything, at school it’s mainly in maths and hockey apparently. Teacher said to me she’s never seen such will before to not cooperate / speak - she’s been referred to pastoral care to see if they can get out of her what is wrong. She has many friends, is creative and quirky, never in trouble and hates even a whiff of her being implemented in trouble unfairly. She’s bright, her school reports are always good. Tonight we had another strop after picking up a Chinese, she didn’t want to eat it, I didn’t make her. Asked if she’d like something else and that I’d remember she doesn’t like Chinese. She said she was a bit hungry but wanted nothing. I tried to talk to her after dinner which went badly. Back to silent staring, I tried to ask questions, she led me to believe someone had hurt her - an adult which sent me into orbit worrying. She put her hands around her throat and applied pressure at one point saying she couldn’t say. Eventually, 45 minutes later she made out it was me that had hurt her (after briefly insinuating it might be my husband) refused to say how (I don’t touch her ever), I asked if its something I’d said, silence, I asked her to draw it, couldn’t make sense of it. gave up and as she wouldn’t put her pjs on I came upstairs. She pushed a note under the door saying her brother has said she’s adopted. She’s not and she’s seen all the birth pics and my bump pics. Her brother looked genuinely baffled. I know when he’s lying. 🤷♀️ So what the heck? I don’t know if it’s nothing and she’s manipulating the situ for attention, it is something and she’s not telling me and making other stuff up. What do I do???? Oh and she fell out of a tree yesterday at my parents and has a massive bruise on her behind and a graze on her thigh - now I’m wondering if she fell
or jumped? Or if my brain is now working overtime.