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nearly two temper tantrums and pushing his luck with Dad

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helnhay · 14/08/2007 21:55

Oh heck, please am I right?? My son two next month and we have hit FUN!! If he doesn't want to do something he throws his head back and screams if we say no smiles sticks out his tongue and carries on.. When out he somtimes screams and to keep him quiet I will pass him his beaker. At home I ignore it but Dad doesn't think to warn him. He turned off his favourite movie and managed to get him upstairs and shut them both in bathroom and tried to get son to brush his teeth, I go up tell Dad to get some air and let son calm himself, I try to say to Dad about picking his fights but he just had a go that if he didn't take him up to brush his teeth I'd moan.....argh!!! What the heck do I do? Leave Dad to handle it and let son get so wound up he can't calm down or step in?

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startouchedtrinity · 14/08/2007 22:04

Have a plan beforehand and stick to it. Go through with dh what you will do and how. If you aren't consistent (even with one of you getting stricter) things won't get better as your ds doesn't know where he is.

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helnhay · 14/08/2007 22:17

thanks..I am finding sons tantrums tough and if I can avoid them I Wwill but dad tends to go out searching for them...I hate seeing baby so uncontrollably upset and hubby more exasperated. What do you suggest being a good way forward?

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fawkeoff · 14/08/2007 22:21

totally going through the same situation....ds is 22 months so is getting naughtier by the minute, but i dont give in just to keep him quiet, because i did this with dd and as she grew older i felt that i had no authority over her because i let her get away with so much for an easy life.you really need to find a time out place to put him that he isnt going to get the attention and he will calm down....have you got a travel cot?????? i use mine to stick ds in when he is being a bugger

fawkeoff · 14/08/2007 22:21

startouchedtrinity · 14/08/2007 22:24

If you and dh can talk about this w/out him thinking you are being critical I would sit down with him and literally write it down - step 1, warning, step 2, second warning - step three, time out etc etc. Have a routine for bedtime. Agree to ignore tantrums. If your dh doesn't like advice then maybe getting him a book like Little Angels or Toddler Taming might help as he can then become an 'expert' .

Once you have agreed your plan, you can then intervene if either of you should deviate from it.

Also distraction is wonderful to head off a problem. Make the whole going up to bed thing a fun time for dad and boy.

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helnhay · 14/08/2007 22:29

sorry couldn't do travel cot ..or even cot as both a for sleep and i want to keep then happy places, when he goes for it I tend to pick up anything to read sit on the floor, "ignore" and wait for him to get a grip of himself. he gives the impression once he calms down that he's forgotten why it started.

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fawkeoff · 14/08/2007 22:31

have u thought of a play pen then?????

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helnhay · 14/08/2007 22:32

Great off to order book. Dad doesn't read but maybe can badger him into it if he thinks his life might get easier.

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fawkeoff · 14/08/2007 22:32

i just walk away when hes tanting so he knows that he isnt going to win....he does calm down eventually

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