What do you expect of your 11 yr old?

[Thunderpants]

DD is aghast because I think that she should tidy her room, make her bed, and clear away her dishes from the table after a meal. Personally I think this is nothing much, but she says that none of her friends have to do anything at all! What's the situation in your house?

DS (11) has to make his bed & tidy his room. He lays the table & empties dishwasher - but only when asked, never automatically. Does not get asked every day (has a LOT of homework - Yr7). Does take his own dishes to the dishwasher, and will help dry up and "hand" washing if asked.

He takes dustbin down the 120' drive for us (on his way out to school).

Will hoover,but doesn't move furniture.

They are part of the family & should help. I say I don't want to cook/clean/iron but have to do it, that normally helps!

My dd is 4 and tidies her room and makes her bed!

My 10 year old and 8 year old have to do that, plus put away clean clothes and occasionally do the washing up/vacuuming. She is having you on (or she's got lots of spoilt brats for friends )

DS 11 yr 6, mows the lawn and tidies the garden. Does the drying up when asked. Tidies his room when asked about 5 times. Empties the washing machine and puts it in the tumble dryer , when asked. Cleans out the guinea pigs.

My dd has to make her bed, keep her room tidy and help about the house on an ad hoc basis - she hoovers, does the dishes (badly) and helps carry laundry upstairs. She also offers to clean the bathroom, a job she likes (but uses so much detergent the the room reeks afterwards!) She hates the bedroom tidy palaver, but is incentivised by the thought of pocket money!

My 3 year old gets the bowls out for breakfast (and gets really annoyed if you do it -'It's my job mummy.')
I expect him to put his dirty clothes in the linen basket
He helps tidy his toys away in the living room every night (not so much his bedroom)

so really what your saying for an 11 year I think is pefectly reasonable.

She's having you on.

My dd1 (just turned 12) does a varying range of chores, including washing up, hoovering, running the washing machine, sorting laundry etc etc. She also does quite a lot of childcare for the younger ones, eg. bathing the 3yo and putting her to bed. She doesn't do all of these things all of the time, it depends on what needs doing. Tidying bedrooms and clearing/laying the table go without saying, and not just the child's own stuff, everything.

My line is: "Well someone's got to do it, and I don't see why it should always be me."

Ds 11 hoovers,dusts,irons,cuts grass and cleans the car. He takes pride in keeping his bedroom tidy and won't let me tidy anything up in there. If only I could get him to do his homework without asking.

Thunder,
My DS (8) hoovers, washes up, makes his bed, strips it when washing day, Dries up, Loads washing machine and empties it off his own washing, Hangs it up, takes his dishes out when he finishes his dinner, Helps cook, And when I have finished the ironing he takes his clothes and outs them away.

I think DD is pulling a fast one on you

Good luck x

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PUT not OUT lmao