6 year old awful behaviour

[MakeAWhish]

Please help 😪 My 6 year old DD is wearing me down with her behaviour. As soon as she wakes up (5.30am today) it's constant demands. I refuse, of course, so she cries, whinges, throws things, until I lose my temper. Nothing seems to work. Father Christmas threat works better than anything but still not consistently. Rewarding good behaviour and ignoring bad also doesn't work. She's not interested in reward charts. I know I'm doing something wrong, but I am too deep into it to see what. Can you help give me any tips? Im 7 weeks pregnant with DC3, currently off work with a slipped disc, and her behaviour and attitude is draining the life out of me 😩

Just to give you an idea, she had a tantrum this morning as she couldn't draw the perfect unicorn, then another tantrum when she couldn't get all the knots out of her hair, then another tantrum when I hadn't done her hair properly. My other half took her to school and I ended up shutting the front door on her as she stood on the doorstep shouting at me that she wanted to wear her trainers cos I'd had to let her older sister wear hers as we couldn't find her school shoes 🙈 I literally closed it in her face. I'm not helping matters, am I 😭

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