Having to do every feed at home even at 6 months

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Dd hasn't let me hold her for a feed since she was 1 month old, so every feed (7am, 11am, 2.30pm, 5.30pm, 11pm) has to be at home...very annoying when i see other people out in shops feeding their baby (older or younger). Why can't mine be like that? She's such a strange little thing!

That's what i thought.
6 months of shte because no f*ker listens!
The worst thing is, it's not just dd3 that's suffered cos of this - dts have had to be quiet/leave room every feed because she is so easily distracted (i presume because she'd rather play than drink, bless 'er), and being quiet in a tidgey house when you're 9 is no mean feat!!
Also the stress on dh and I has been ridiculous. We are used to having alot more freedom.

Mine wouldn't go to fecking sleep unless I fed her. Not in the car or the pushchair. In fact she wouldn't even go in the sodding pushchair I had to sling her. Which probably made her more comfortable.

I used to be and down about every 40 mins until I went to bed and took her with me.

Mine went up the centile at a terrific rate until about 3 months then dropped from the 91st to the 50th. Hmmmm. early weaning will sort that though won't it Mrs Icarus.

More Solids Mrs Icarus. You seem depreswed Mrs Icarus fill in this form. You should take the anti-ds Mrs Icarus.

I was not depressed I was sleep deprived ffs.

Your post totally caught my eye because I thought ooh weird just like dd1. I wasn't expecting a possible solution.

Hijack away! I'd do the same. In fact i have, frequently!
Am trying to find stuff about weaning now...she isn't too good with the solids either, so if anyone got any ideas pleeeeease?? Otherwise i shall go and start another thread and make people listen [threatening emoticon]

I am even annoyed at myself cos i am such a perfectionist & i always think i know everything - so why didn't i realise she was in pain and not just being an awkward git then???

perfectionist erm yep. I think in a way it was worse because I was BF so It felt like all my fault so perhaps I wasn't as fierce about is as I could have been. DD1 had a milk intolerence too btw.

I did blw with dd1 because it was the only way she would eat. She never ate much though until she was over a year. Get yours on the meds and see what happens. I will vicariously live through it and see how life could have been lol!

Littleducks - have just spent 10 mins trying to upload pic of me feeding dd. Wouldn't have it so tough!

Park is under reconstruction in our area, and anyway, she was a winter baby and it's always been too cold or too wet for sitting outside . Have been hoping for some good weather so i can go to another park to try it tho!

The problem with anywhere public is that sometimes she won't take more than 2oz of formula without lots of coaxing - at which she makes so much fuss it sounds like i'm torturing the poor thing!

Got back from doc's an hour ago. Had to postpone due to torrential rain!

Nice lady doc (whom i won't see again apparently cos she is a temp and leaving tomorrow) said in 25 years as a doctor she has never known a baby with reflux to lie down for a feed. I told her about you, hope you don't mind, but she said it sounds more like cow's milk intolerance and has prescribed wysoy. Will only be able to try it 2moro morning tho as the chemist hasn't got any til then.

I'd have complained a bit about that verdict, but i am willing to give it a try as dh is mildly allergic to cow's milk. Just thought if a baby was allergic to it that it would show up a bit more obviously as it's their staple food.

Interesting

Definitely reflux here, dd has laryngomalacia and 80% of babies with that have reflux. They even 'scoped her to confirm the diagnosis. And I was giving her BM only until around 3.5 months, when she started on just one bottle of formula per day which made no difference at all...so not an allergy!

Interestingly, dd is very pukey at the moment as she has a streaming cold; although she can now drink sitting up or cradled, she's preferred to lie down today for all her feeds - ie when pukey, she wants to lie flat. Bet an anatomy expert could come up with a reason.

That said, worth a try for your LO if allergy is in your family - good luck! I'm glad the doctor was nice

I did point out to her that i thought i might be back - that's when she said she wasn't going to be the one who would see us!

I can't take page with me cos i haven't got printer btw!

And yes, i took a list of symptoms, most of which i think she chose (politely) to ignore. I find this happens with most gps IME

aggre re soy. at your doc. You wou,d probably know if your dd was milk intolerant. mine got rashes, contact and general pinprick and weird mucousy stools if I had milk in my diet.

She finally outgrew it at about 2.8.

I was nodding along with you describing torturing your dd with a bottle when out. I used to have that but it was my breast. I felt like I was just asking for people to criticise me for BF. I hardly went out for ages because it was sooooo stressful.

I think she said wrote down something about CMP rather than lactose. It says on the page that it's not the same.
But i still don't see why she ignored
the hiccups
the need to lie flat (what has this to do with allergy?)
the acid belches
refusing to feed despite being hungry
gagging on own fist

Doc said she wouldn't be able to lie flat at all if reflux, and that it wouldn't be just confined to feed times - she would generally be a screamy baby.
Thing is, dd is 6 months old now - we've been finding ways to cope all this time, and plus she's getting older. Also, are most 6 month olds on 5 full feeds a day? Cos i can't remember my older dds being!

I've just seen this, SIW, and we're there with you too. Except I never stopped feeding her in my arms or going out, maybe I should have, but we have quite a calming down time with dummy and over the shoulder sometimes every ounce or so. At 2 months, dd started to like being laid flat and I also had a very experienced GP at the 8 week check say it was colic, not reflux, because it would never mean the baby wold ant to lie down. The 'it's just colic' theme carried on til 4 months, followed by it being my stress transferring to the baby and making her like that during feeds.
I have finally decided to take dd to the GP I usually see - but because she is a happy thriving cute thing, I am still worried they won't take it seriously.
If you go back to a GP, try seeing one with young children themselves - it does seem to help.
And hgs, it is hard to see the pain and be unable to do anything about it.

Not read entire thread but this is oh so familiar! My life was pretty tough with ds from maybe 2 months til 6 months. He would scream at all feeds except the first of the day and push the bottle away.

And the comments other people used to make were SO annoying! I ended up structuring going out into the couple of hours between feeds so I wouldn't have to be in public.

It's really hard so I hope you do find a solution. Ds stopped doing this randomly at 6 months. He had a bad stomach bug and after was ravenous and stopped it but maybe that was a coincidence as if it was reflux it tends to improve around that age doesn't it?

The docs were all pretty useless.

Anyway, not much help beyond it will get better - although that doesn't help much right now I guess.

We went down the whole "allergy" route too. but as dd has other health problems we could cut out the gp step and bother the Paediatricians we were already seeing. they did several blood tests, urine tests, stool tests and tried her on every brand of hypoallergenic milk that exists (but not soy as they said babies with lactose intolorance or cows milk protein (CMP) intorerance were something like 50% likely to go on to develop a soya allergy!) all the special milk did was make her so constipated that she wouldn't drink it anymore! finally saw the head Paed and she looked at all the negative test results and problems with the funny milk and advised me to go back to our original formula!!! still I sold the spare cans of neocate on ebay which in some ways made up for some of the inconvenience

if I were you I would ask for the tests (and the results) before you play around with funny milks. could you ask (your HV?)for a referral to a dietitian? our first one before we moved was brilliant. she worked at our local Sure Start unit. (they have all the money and resorces by the way...) we didn't need a referral and could just make an appointment and see her sometimes the next day (unlike the 4 month wait for the NHS one when we moved)

Kamikayzed dd's finally cracked drinking milk!!! if only i didn't need her to eat solids too.... but its nowhere near as bad as it was. She is even moving back up through the percentiles now she's eating. (dropped from 50th to 0.4th, now back up at 9th)

Oh your poor baby, losing so much weight . Have tried two feeds with the wysoy but (drum roll)...she hates it! And she's actually started posseting again, whereas she had near enough stopped with the normal milk.
Has anyone's dc had darkish green poo (usually loose) btw. I know its TMI but the hvs said it must benormal for her, and the doc said without explanation 'hunger stools'

Thanks for all the encouragement so far!

i know they said it was just how she was ment to be but she is 91st percentile for length ffs! she looks like a bean pole. (i'm curvy and her dad is rotund) now she is feeding more or less normally her weight is increasing. she still doesn't look like she is genetically linked to us but she doesn't look ill any more.

she did have dark green poos at some stage. there were many many colours and consistencys along the way I think the dark green was due to one of the funny milks though which wouldn't help you as I think you mean it was green before the soy milk. dd did get more used to each new milk after a couple of days of starvation (i think it was desperation) but at one point the hospital were changing her milk every 2 weeks! so she was not eating for 2 days out of every fortnight!!! she was about 4 to 5 months old at that point.

It definately is not frothy - i'd have recognised that as a problem. It's in a book i've got. Don't think i should continue with this milk if she's actually being worse with it though. And it smells like Ovaltine. Yuk.