Having to do every feed at home even at 6 months

[SomethingIncrediblyWitty]

Dd hasn't let me hold her for a feed since she was 1 month old, so every feed (7am, 11am, 2.30pm, 5.30pm, 11pm) has to be at home...very annoying when i see other people out in shops feeding their baby (older or younger). Why can't mine be like that? She's such a strange little thing!

Not sure I understand. How do you feed her without holding her?

I guess they lie down?

I have to put a cushion on the floor to prop her head up on, and sit cross-legged next to her on the floor! Have tried settling her next to me on sofa but she pushes up with her legs (very strong) and is having none of it!

Bottle feeding btw, sorry.

Do you bf or ff? Sounds a bit odd to me, I've never come across it tbh.

Sorry, x post.

Could she not go in a highchair now she is 6 months, so at least you could go to cafes. or take a bumbo with you?

She'll take a feed in any position if she's hungry enough...sorry to sound abrubpt, but a 6mth old dictating how and when she's fed sounds a bit ott to me.

I did try a highchair this afternoon but she had 2oz and then screamed and screamed.
Belgianchox...i'm sure you mean well & all but when she started losing weight at 1 month old i had to find a solution. The cushion idea was the only thing that worked. For a few months we tried going back to holding her, but eventually got too stressed with every feed being a battle, and just have let her do her thing. She is very happy and very healthy...just a pain in the ass for feeds!

Give her the bottle in the pushchair, woman! Watch her carefully, she will be fine. It meqans you won't have to restrict your movements any more.

i thought i had posted on this earlier, so there must be a totally random post from me on another thread....

i'm sorry if i missed something, but could you not just take the cushion with you?

is she weaning??

Gosh I didn't know this, ds2 has always insisted on being left to do his bottle himself, from when he could semisupport it. He wouldn't be held for feeds, still won't.

He has his bottles on the sofa of in the car seat or pushchair now, has done since he was about 6 mionths old.

1. Colditz - If she won't take it laid back in highchair or on my lap why on this earth do you think she would drink it in a pushchair

2. Littleducks - Did actually think about taking cushion with me but how many shops/ other public places you know with enough floor space for me to sit on the floor with her??? Even most peole i know haven't got the space on their floors (too much clutter/furniture!!)

3. Sept1712 - yes she is weaning. No probs with the solids, just the milk!! And she can't manage much solids yet so can't replace with cheese/yoghurt. Anyway she's just as fussy with water!

4. Kamikayzed - sounds most sensible so far. Haven't tried feeding her totally laid back in buggy but will try this at home first. Another screaming feed in public is not my idea of fun!
   How would i know if she has silent reflux tho?

SomethingIncredablyWitty.

I don't 'think she would' take it in the pushchair, I suggested it. Have you tried it? If you haven't, how do you KNOW it won't work?

I made a suggestion intended to help. If you didn't want anyone to suggest anything, and just wanted lots of sympathy, you should have said so.

Sorry, bit stressed - do want suggestions but tbh i am extremely wary of trying stuff out when it usually means a totally disrupted feed and 3 days of trying to get back into a routine!!
Still on defensive after the 'if she's hungry she'll drink' comment (i know that wasn't you),which was particularly annoying!

Ok

the reason I suggested the pushchair is that when ds2 was having a particularly bad day, the motion of the pushchair would sometimes be enough to lull him into drinking

Kami - how come i spoke to 3 different HV a midwife and a nursery nurse about the problems i was having with her, over various months, even though at one point i was having to be quite forceful with her and i was upset because it felt like i was force-feeding my baby and ALL of them made the same crap suggestions.
First there was the ones that said i should stop feeding her as soon as she cries and then feed her next time she's hungry...if we had done that we would have had a 3 month old still being fed every 2 hours including at night, but even when i objected she just said 'stick with it', and ignored that there could be any problem.
Then there were the ones that said 'oh but she's obviously happy with it, so you must be ok'.
And that is the extent of advice i have had from professionals!!