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my dd at 11 months and i wanna get her started on a potty???

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shazzaronnie · 24/05/2007 14:54

my dd is 11 months and i want to get her on a potty but not sure the best way to do this any tips would be helpful

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Aitch · 25/05/2007 19:50

no no, hang on a minute. i absolutely LOVE it when dd goes to the loo or does a crap in the potty as it's another 20p i don't have to shell out for nappies. they cost a blithering fortune. (and please don't tell me about washables, i Can't Be Arsed). so if i can get dd out of nappies without too much hassle and as quickly as we both can, then i'll be quids in.

tiggyhop · 25/05/2007 19:55

It feels like I have been potty training my little boy for most of (my) (his) life. This is DS2 who is about to be 3, DD3 who is 18 months is now taking her shorts and nappy off and trying to tell me that she wants to use the potty/loo. Am studiously ignoring her.

tiggyhop · 25/05/2007 19:57

DD took her shorts and nappy off and did a poo in my shoe the other day. My first thought was not horror about the shoe but oh well it will be easy to clear up (there are a LOT of accidents in our house).

I absolutely agree about saving nappies. Maybe this could catch on?

belgo · 25/05/2007 20:26

tiggyhop - my dd2 did the same at the age of 18 months and within a couple of days she was fully potty trained ( with about one accident a week). So it is possible at this age.

belgo · 25/05/2007 20:28

I know a girl who was fully potty trained at the age of 14 months.

It does save on nappies.

softmusk · 25/05/2007 20:47

from what i have seem off early potty training it seems to be the parent who is trained to no when child needs potty more than the child

Aitch · 25/05/2007 21:04

that rather assumes that children around the globe all either have parents who are able to keep an eye on them or can afford to buy/wash nappies for them. in china, toddler clothes have gaps at the relevant places and the babies squat in the street if necessary.

adath · 25/05/2007 21:18

I never trained DD I tried and gave up and just after her 3rd Birthday she had no nappy one and I was out the rooma dn she peed in the potty, tht was her done.
A freind of mine forced her dd to potty train at 15 months as she was pregnant again and now her dd (same age as mine 3.7) has problems doing a poo this is something she has never ever been good with it and it has been put down to the fact that she was trained far too early.
DD has had a handful of acciddents and is far more reliable than most of her friends who trained earlier.

I can personally recommend the waiting until they do it themselves route. Also DD was 2.5 when ds came along and for a while was keen to be babied and pretended to be a baby and having her on the potty just before he came would have been a bad move so could imagine that a younger child may find it even harder. They are babies for sucha short time so why rsh them?

Aitch · 25/05/2007 21:22

seriously, i'm not getting this, are you all saying that children all round the world are shtting their pants until they're 2.5 - 3 years old?

FrannyandZooey · 25/05/2007 21:25

Aitch I think in a lot of countries babies are carried, the mother can feel the physical signs and just holds the baby out to do the business in a handy spot

I agree if done with no fuss EC can be great (and VERY green) but if you are the lazy arse sort of parent I recommend leaving it till they do it themselves

adath · 25/05/2007 21:29

We are not talking about around the world though are we??? In a lot of cultures where nappies are not used they us elimination communication and yes it does a lot of keeping an eys on the small baby recognising the signs of imminent pee and poo and dealing with it. It is used from birth not a on a baby that has spent a year or more quite happily going in a nappy than suddenly whipping it off and expecting them to understand what to do. There is a big difference.

Aitch · 25/05/2007 21:35

but dd is doing it by herself, that's the thing. she Loves doing a poo in her potty (or at least loves all the praise) and today did a wee in the loo when we sat her on there. again, we did that because she was being a PITA and climbing up on the loo seat.
i don't think i'm being consistent enough to call it anything like potty training but i really do want to encourage her to try not crapping in her nappy because i really don't want her in them for the next year and a half...

Aitch · 25/05/2007 21:36

er, i was talking about babies around the world, adath. i think i'm at liberty to do so, am i not?

adath · 25/05/2007 21:46

Er pardon? Yes say what you want but if you are going to have attitude expect it back, nobody is saying kids all over the world shit themselves and I was merely naking the point that no they probably aren't but that is not really most relevant to whether or not to train and when.
No need for the attitude in either of your posts actually but thanks for feeling the need to clear that up for me.

Aitch · 25/05/2007 21:48

lol adath, someone's obviously rattled your cage but it wasn't me, i can assure you.

whomovedmychocolate · 25/05/2007 21:56

Think Op may have been listening to that Baby Listening woman who says start at nine months.

Go on, try it. Eventually you may get bored. I'm thinking of seeing where DD is at 12 months and then trying - but I'm prepared to back off if it doesn't work.

Ellbell · 25/05/2007 21:58

Shaz, IMVHO it is much easier having two in nappies than a newly potty-trained toddler and a newborn. In the early days of a LO being toilet trained, you have to be prepared to drop everything and run to the toilet with them when they need to go. They can't just 'hang on for 5 minutes'.

I think that in the past (and in other parts of the world) early potty training was/is the norm for the reasons already outlined. But I think you'll be making your life harder, not easier, by starting with your LO now.

FWIW, I potty trained dd1 at 2 years 4 months-ish. I did it then because I was still on maternity leave with dd2 and thought it'd be easier than when I was back at work. She did get the hang of it, but had lots of accidents (wees, not poos thankfully) for quite a while afterwards (once memorably through the wicker seat of a chair in a French cafe and down onto the tiled floor... splish, splash... ). I left dd2 till she was more like 2 years 10 months, and she was done and dusted in a week. Much easier!

Good luck

divastrop · 25/05/2007 22:01

shazzaronnie

interesting name.

i waited untill my children asked to wear pants/knickers(2.3 with dd1,2.5 with the ds's).there wasnt really much training involved apart from 'if you need a wee go in the potty'.it took about 2 weeks with the boys,longer for the wee-wee side of things with dd1 but she has problems in that area.

there was a thing about that 'elimination communication' on some documantary about attatchment parenting a few months back.i thought they were insane,personally,although i admired them in a way.

i'll stick to pampers though cos i cant be arsed.

morningpaper · 25/05/2007 22:25

I started sitting mine on the potty at around 9 months ish

actually was WAY earlier for number2, maybe 3 months

They both just poo-ed in that position from REALLY early on - don't know why but there you are. I never have to deal with shitty nappies and it saves a fortune.

I just sat them on the loo /potty at nappy change time and they did their thang

Number 2 is now 20 months and in pants at home sometimes and asks to go to the loo several times a day - when she has dry nappies all the time I will just put her in pants. No accidents and WAY less nappy use than her peers.

BUT I would not hope to toilet train an 11 month old if by that you mean get them in pants! But I see no reason not to introduce the potty/toilet as part of the nappy-change routine from an early age

Aitch · 25/05/2007 22:47

interesting use of 'skids', mp.

so do you consider yourself to be in thrall to your children's elimination or is it a habit thta you feel benefits you both?

we poiint out the existence of the potty (and as of today, the loo) to dd every time she's naked and in the loo, so that's twice a day. sometimes she sits on it and does something, sometimes she doesn't. i'm only approaching it from teh 'fewer nappies' perspective at this stage. plus, i suppose i'm hoping that dd will actually prefer not being wet or pooey but we'll have to wait and see on that one.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/05/2007 22:56

simplest way to do this is to wait for them to tell you they want to. No need to actually do anything.

Aitch · 25/05/2007 22:57

but the cost, vvv, the coooost...

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/05/2007 23:01

To whom?

Sometimes, you gotta weigh up the pros and cons, the physical and the financial, and make a choice based on the results.

For me, the best way usually is the path of least resistance. My mental health supercedes any other cost, more often than not.

I have neither the time (need money you see), or the patience to sit a child on the potty whose apparent raisin d'etre is to do the opposite of what I want him to do.

Aitch · 25/05/2007 23:07

nor do i, vvv, nor do i. but if dd shows the slightest inclination to poo in a potty or loo then i'm definitely going to encourage it.

lissie · 25/05/2007 23:10

my mum bought pants for ds when he was 9m and has been on at me to train him since!

he did tell me today that he'd done a poo tho. he's 2y

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