Angry 4 year old kicking doors

[Mummab1991]

I’m after some advice please I’m at wits end with my 4 year old. At bedtime he turns so angry so much so in the past 2 nights he has kicked a hole in 2 doors (not what I want in a rented house) he’s the loveliest little boy in the day!

We have the same bedtime routine get changed 2 stories then settle down and I follow the “super nanny rules” in regards to getting him to sleep!

Would this be an issue I need to take him to the doctors about or health visitor?

Does he say why he's angry - I mean, is it because he doesn't want to go to bed, or is it just because he's overtired at the end of a long day? Is he at school OP? How long has he been doing this for? And also what are the "supernanny" rules? (Sorry for all the questions!) I don't know if I would be asking for an assessment or anything yet, based on what you've said so far - unless there are other things going on or the bedtime resistance has been going on for a while.

PS there'd be no harm in getting some advice from your HV though. Have you had a look at any parenting websites - aha parenting is good and usually has helpful suggestions.

He is at school! He’s really happy and fine all evening until it comes to sleeping time! It all started since he got back from his dads just before Christmas and it’s been getting worse and worse!

Super nanny- first time she puts them back to bed she explains it’s bedtime... second time she just says it’s bed time and third time(and every other time) just put them back to bed! I’ve tried stroking his hair etc too but nothing seems to work :(

That sounds tough. Do you think he's over tired from school - does he go to bed early enough? Any other reasons why he might be like that? It's hard at that age for him to tell him what's bothering him - maybe he doesn't like being separated from you at bedtime and he's just acting out because of that? You could try giving him loads of time and attention in the evening - before bedtime I mean - playing games, cuddles etc so he feels more secure about"leaving" you at bedtime?? Then do the supernanny tactics after that if that works. I don't know, OP, hopefully someone will come along with some more suggestions.

He goes to bed at 7 but after his tantrums it’s nearly 9 sometimes later he’s asleep! Yeah I turn my phone off when we get in until when he’s asleep so it’s just the 2 of us and no distractions! Thank you though! X

Maybe something to do with staying with dad, maybe displaying his unhappiness at you guys being separate?? Have you spoke to his dad?