She says I'm mean for asking, that other mums don't make their children tidy, that her dad is so much nicer, that I should be the one doing it all, that her life should be fun etc. It's a daily struggle. She's had all the explanations and gentle reminders and less gentle ones but is completely opposed to it. When she ever does anything I will have had to ask and spell it out several times then when done there will be the big announcement of her having finished (usually it's not actually finished).
All I ask is that she tidy up after herself, act in a way that doesn't make a mess eg eat nicely at the dinner table and at least once or twice do something else during the week like empty the dishwasher or fold a few clothes.
I work full time and with that and being single and taking DD and sibling to classes most evenings I need the co-operation.
Any tips/stories/advice please?